LR how I got with my last girlfriend

[Longshanks]

We took a class together. I thought she was cute, but I wasn't sure whether I would date her. She seemed a bit nervous or shy (granted, it was an acting class, and most people were both nervous and shy). We chatted briefly after the second-to-last day of class, and I didn't push myself to ask for her number b/c I was a bit ambivalent, and b/c I knew I'd have one more chance.

I was almost wrong, though! Lesson: never miss your windows of opportunity. She was late to our last lesson, and I was depressed because I assumed she had skipped, and I would not see her again. Luckily, she showed up half-way through, so I told myself I had to move on her. However, there was a very suave dude who had done some modeling, and he was interested in her, and I wasn't sure I could out-compete him on fundamentals.

During the lesson, she and I got matched up to do an activity where we took turns leading each other around with a blindfold on. I was thinking, "Man, this is classic rom-com material right here! What are the odds?" We were supposed to describe our surroundings to our blindfolded partner as we dragged them around the building. I could feel the tension between us building. Some people were asking their partners to identify objects by touch. I was tempted to go for a kiss and ask, "What do you think that was?" However, I thought that might be too bold, she seemed nervous enough with me as it was.

When I was blindfolded, I told her to put my hand on the raised lettering on someone's office door. I pretended to read the lettering, but I was actually peaking out from under the blindfold. She was really impressed at first, but I admitted it right away, and she gave me a playful punch in the arm and laughed. That really broke the ice.

Here's how she described the event later. Notice what she says about my clothing. Gents, fundamentals are important! Also, don't be too nice.

A:I didn't really think you were my type so I noticed your style and thought it was worth a try. After the plaid. like on the last day
L: haaha! I had no idea how close that was!
A: I thought you might ask me but I didn't know if I would say yes. But then we did the stupid blind walk. And while your eyes were closed I was seeing what you were wearing. And then you cheated. And I liked that. Until you cheated I thought you were waaaaay too nice.
L: Loool!
A: Then I could see you were a bit attractive.
A: I was more interested. SO I decided I would say yes.

After the class, a number of us went for drinks. While the suave dude was ordering, I got her number, and then stayed for a few minutes, but left b/c I didn't want to compete with him directly, and I sensed that she would be willing to go on a date with me. And I was right. We went to a couple bars near my apartment, and I was getting the fuck-eyes very quickly. But I postponed the kiss and kept building tension by standing close and looking intensely at her, but not going for it. She was playing with my hands and touching me ALOT. I may have pushed it too much, but I finally went for a manhandle kiss on the street after we left the second bar, and shortly before we passed my apartment. She loved it, and went weak at the knees. I invited her up for another round, and she agreed without hesitation. We didn't go all the way that night, but we sealed the deal a couple dates later. And the rest is history.

PS: Here is how she described me on the first date:

He is 6’3”, lean but with good shoulders and arms, and he was wearing a maroon button down open over a t shirt, a leather jacket, jeans and nice sneakers. His smile is wonderful. It is large and wide and fills his whole face. I like his face in its entirety. I think his nose bothers him, the fact it is large and a little crooked, but I like it. I think it works well with his other facial features. I find him attractive. I remember back and even though I told my friend he was Her type, I now find him attractive too. He just doesn't fall within my usual taste.

And this is after a couple months, and an awkward discussion about relationship status that I didn't handle well.

I like L. He is much more complex and interesting than I first assumed. He is not ready for a serious relationship. Doesn’t everyone say it is all about timing? I (for once) could be serious if that option were presented, however I see that it is not. I think because we are good together, we are compatible and I am comfortable with him, that I wanted him to be at that level. However, that is not the reality. I am going to enjoy him and enjoy what we have. I think some of my exes would look at this whole situation and laugh because I was L. for them.