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Ok so I went out today with my friends, excited and ready to meet new girls. We went to a place and there were plenty of girls (a sorority party) and not a ton of guys. I was just saying hi to friends I knew and using that to create indirect value. In that time, there were at least three attractive girls looking at me. But they were all in groups and dancing and I wasn't sure what to say w/o being creepy. One girl (who was gorgeous) even gave me an inviting look twice and while I made eye contact, I didn't approach (I was really nervous). I knew it was approach anxiety, but I made up an excuse and left. By the time I came back, all three girls were gone. I was obviously really upset. Later, I was playing pong with a friend and a girl was right behind me looking bored. So I brought her into the game, but she never really seemed into me and the conversation died. Later in the day, the girl who I had seen before came back, but was with her friend the whole time and I had no idea how to approach her. So there was some eye contact but nothing else and she left.
This has been my biggest challenge. I know what's wrong, but I have no idea to get over it. My stomach tenses up and my mind goes blank.
Later on the way back to my room, I met girls who were there earlier. They weren't attractive, but I was feeling upset and I wanted to talk to someone. When I said I was at the party, one said they remembered me from it even though I never said hi to them. I said "Well I have one of those memorable faces" and they all smiled. I told them I'd see them around.
It is so frustrating because I knew every girl at that party would've loved for me to talk to them and I could have easily taken them to bed. But I didn't and wasted it. But this is why I'm doing this, hopefully I can work through this.
This has been my biggest challenge. I know what's wrong, but I have no idea to get over it. My stomach tenses up and my mind goes blank.
Later on the way back to my room, I met girls who were there earlier. They weren't attractive, but I was feeling upset and I wanted to talk to someone. When I said I was at the party, one said they remembered me from it even though I never said hi to them. I said "Well I have one of those memorable faces" and they all smiled. I told them I'd see them around.
It is so frustrating because I knew every girl at that party would've loved for me to talk to them and I could have easily taken them to bed. But I didn't and wasted it. But this is why I'm doing this, hopefully I can work through this.