How Not to Feel Unsatifed With Results?

[DavidEdge]

I keep feeling like my progress at getting better with women is too slow. I don't hit a plateau I just feel like my results are moving to slow. Is this a required stage that all seducers go through or is it just my mental model is flawed?

 

[Thedoctor]

David,

I suppose that depends on how slowly you're making progress. My suggestion would be to make a list of ten things you need to do in order to get better. Make sure to put a date at the top of the list so you can have a reference of how long you've been tackling the problems. eg:

Oct 30, 2013
-start moving slower
-work on getting a better wardrobe
-whiten teeth
-start having random conversations with people whenever possible
-start hitting the gym at least 3 days a week
-open at least 5 girls a week
etc.

The key is to make a list of ten things you think will help improve your overall success. Then take three or four of these and start applying these over the course of the next month. My suggestion is 2 hard ones and 2 easy ones. From the list above, whitening your teeth and wardrobe are probably the two easiest. Then choose 2 harder ones that will require more time and effort. As you feel you've improved (after 1 or 2 months), cross the things off the list and move onto the next. And jot down notes next to each thing about how you've improved upon it. This keeps you on track and allows you to monitor your progress. This is a lot like before and after pictures if you started hitting the gym.

Try it out. You might be surprised at just how much progess you make!

-Doc

 

[Supah]

Really good advice Doc.

David, you never know when you're going to hit your plateau, just keep going and don't give up, all beginnings are hard.
Read chase's article about the 100 hours rule, if you haven't yet.

 

[Zoro]

I feel like I am going through something similar and I think it may myself getting in my own way. I have been stuck on a few things, convincing myself they are important to my identity so I should uphold those values, such as being super smooth, traveling, and even saving the world (I want to be honest as ridiculous as that may have sounded.)

I have learned a great thing from buddhist philosophy and thats to let go of things. That is different from rejecting or throwing something away it is merely setting it down and moving on, perhaps to later come to it, maybe forgetting it all together. It allows progress being able to let go. For me, the obsession of traveling is getting in the way of opportunities for other things and the desire to be smooth with women is getting in the way of improving. I'm also realizing the world is fine the way it is.

Perhaps this has nothing to do with your situation but I thought it might help. Sometimes we get in our own way, without knowing it.

I should also add that since I have yet to achieve much results in these endeavors that my own mental model may be flawed...

 

[DavidEdge]

Thanks for the support everyone, you guys know how to give a newbie motivation . I have gotten better with my fundamental & my social skills. I can't flirt that well, but I'm slowly starting to surpass the guys at my high school. I get attraction from girls (especially when I walk/ pose) and I got over my approach anxiety, my vibe is getting warmer/relaxed as well. The main problem is that every girl I like has a boyfriend ( I know some of them lie). For a beginner it's tough no wonder most guys don't get better with girls because it's pretty stressful when you start out. It's only natural to feel a little unsatisfied when you're first starting out because you're not getting laid yet and you're clumsy.