How to arrange a date with busy girl

[Lithuanian]

Hey guys,

I have some interesting question. Actually, Chase or other authors could write an article about this.

I'm just a begginer, but I like quality girls, which are not that easy to pick up. But the most difficult part after getting a number is to arrange first date. Almost all girls are always busy. I went with one girl on first date just when 2 months passed after I got number from her. She was always busy, but when texting she was always warm and apollogetic for not finding time (she's a student). Finally, when I thought she won't ever go to a date, she wrote me herself, apollogised again and offered to meet. And then we finally met.

But this problem occurs mainly with most girls I get number from. How do you deal with that? Be patient or use some some tricks that she would feel guilt. And what should I do while waiting to stay connected? Just call her and chat a bit or text her? Or just every week ask for a date and when she says she's busy, wait until next week?

 

[Man-O]

Happens from time to time you meet some girls who're "busy". Still follow same procedure and refrain from answering texts that aren't to your benefit, hence meeting with them (fluff texts etc., that way you keep texting simple and smart).

Read these articles (google "girlschase" and then "article name":

How to text girls 20 tips
What to text girls to get dates
How to text a girl

These should have all you need.

Ex from me with a girl I had spoken with for 5+ mins who's an instructor at uni, hence taking study pretty serious. Wasn't even sure if I wanted her number as I had hardly talked with any girls that night but as she was leaving I held her hand to say goodbye and she kept holding while smiling (big sign of interest) so took her number. Age: 21, above avg. in looks:

Me: Hey Babe was nice yesterday Could be cool meeting over some tea/coffee, so how's week 21 looking for you? - Theis ---> This was sent the day after as I met her pretty late. You may want to leave a missed call to make sure she didn't type the number wrong or gave you a fake one.

Her: Hey Man-o Yea, it definetly was! Hm it's not that good, we are a bit busy studying because of holiday - but maybe some time afterwards?

DAY 2

Was unsure to reply to this but wasn't sure what she meant as the holiday was before week 21 so asked the next day.
Me: Busy because of holiday? When do you have exam?

Her: I work 10 hours every day in the vacation and my exams start from the 2nd of June so I have to use a lot of time preparing on weekdays. --> Not sure when she has vacation but doubted it was in week 21.

Me: A minor detail. Week 21 is still before holiday
Her: Hahaha you're right! Thought you meant next week

Now I know she's definetly free in week 21 and can arrange accordingly. So next text will be 3 options (3 particular days in week 21) for her to choose all ending in my new flat

 

[D_Smooth1900]

Hey guys,

I have some interesting question. Actually, Chase or other authors could write an article about this.

I'm just a begginer, but I like quality girls, which are not that easy to pick up. But the most difficult part after getting a number is to arrange first date. Almost all girls are always busy. I went with one girl on first date just when 2 months passed after I got number from her. She was always busy, but when texting she was always warm and apollogetic for not finding time (she's a student). Finally, when I thought she won't ever go to a date, she wrote me herself, apollogised again and offered to meet. And then we finally met.

But this problem occurs mainly with most girls I get number from. How do you deal with that? Be patient or use some some tricks that she would feel guilt. And what should I do while waiting to stay connected? Just call her and chat a bit or text her? Or just every week ask for a date and when she says she's busy, wait until next week?

- Hey Lithuanian

I understand were your coming from, I've been talking to this girl and everytime I try to set up a date with her she's either busy or doing something that day. I even tried asking what days she was off but I never got a response. The girl sounds like she is intrested over her texts, she comes off as warm and inviting, but her actions dont add up. Honestly If I were you I'll throw the ball in her court and move on. If she is intrested shell re-engage you, hope this helps

-Smooth

 

[Ross]

Saying you are "busy" is just an easy way to tell someone no.

And there can be a lot of different reasons why a girl might be doing this, and they're almost always going to have to be looked at on a case-by-case basis.

I went with one girl on first date just when 2 months passed after I got number from her. She was always busy, but when texting she was always warm and apollogetic for not finding time (she's a student). Finally, when I thought she won't ever go to a date, she wrote me herself, apollogised again and offered to meet. And then we finally met.

It sounds like you did persist with asking, but didn't inspire her to ever make it a reality until you stopped chasing her and she ended up chasing you. In this particular situation it sounds like you got pretty lucky, because girls will rarely set up a date after you've spent 2 months trying to go on one with her. Again, because I have no idea how you asked her out, I can't tell you what you are doing wrong.