How to ask a girl out in college without losing the other girls

[sneaky_charm]

Hey guys,

As you may have read in the forums, I enrolled in college after considering Franco and Chase’s advice and giving some thought myself.

Now, we have a total of about 16 students in our major class. Every day we have 2 classes of 45 minutes. Of the 16, about 9 are girls. I like 3 of them. All 3 of them are nice to me, and I find them giving looks and holding eye contact. I talk to all of them, just enough to keep them and myself happy.

Other than that, I’m trying to run BMOC Game, as Hector suggests. So far in 15 days I’ve memorized the names of about 30 boys and girls outside my class. Usually, I have someone I know in most of the places I go to. So, social proof and pre-selection are working on my favor. I’ve set my eyes on about 12 girls who I’d like to do something with.

Now my problem....
I’ve absolutely no logistics. Can’t bring them home, no hotel or motel nearby, no secluded spots or parks, no car either. The only location I can think of is a movie theatre 20 minutes away from college. That will lead to some make out at best, and no sex.

The college campus is the size of a high school campus, most people know people from other classes. So, I don’t know what to do at this point.

A number of girls seem interested. But, I don’t know how to pull the trigger. Do I ask out one girl after another? Wouldn’t I run the risk of girls talking among themselves. What if I mess up? Should I get a girlfriend instead?

Since sex seems nearly impossible due to logistics, what should be my end goal in order to get better with girls in these 3 years? Losing my virginity, having FWBs etc. would be nice for sure, but I’m mostly concerned about learning the most in these 3 years.

Also, if at all possible, I’d like to keep all the 12 girls interested, and then later, try to fuck them in a hotel in the nearest city which is 100kms away. Also, we may get a car in a few months, then logistics will be less of an issue. Can I keep a girl interested for 1 year or so? How should I approach this?

The sooner you reply, the better it is, because I’m seriously worried about attraction expiring with some of the girls.

 

[Fuck This]

Commuter campus? No dorms? My logistics would be their dorm room if that was an option.

So you will be doing social circle game. Do it right and you will have good references. Botch it and you become a "fuckboy" . Keep an eye out for IOI's and escalation windows. Particularly:

Being asked outside of class to help a girl study.
being invited to off campus events
being asked for or offered a car ride
mention of getting coffee drinks or food.

As always maintain your Outcome Independence, and be discreet in your approaches. Make sure to greet everyone in the group when there is one. Only escalate one on one.

Soapbox time:
One thing youngsters do that pisses me off is be needy clingy grabby PDA hounds in public. Have some fucking pride. It is ok to acknowledge her affection or hold her hand as you are walking, but this crap has to stop...

 

[sneaky_charm]

Fuck This,

Thanks for the input. Okay, I see what you mean. I'll make sure to stick to not showing any affection in public.

However, I do not have a car, and the girls don't either. Study outside class is not an option either, because I can't go inside the girls' hostel, can't bring them home, and the rent houses don't allow boys in girls' rooms.

I have only 4 options:

1. Spend time one to one in college when there is no class (almost no place to kiss in college, though)
2. Ask her out on a walk (may be able to kiss or make out if there is nobody around)
3. Ask her out for ice cream (again, can't make a move here)
4. Take her to a movie (make out inside the theater)

Now, since sex is nearly impossible due to logistics, which option do you suggest?

Also, how should I ask a girl out in a way that I do not fuck up the other prospects?

 

[Fuck This]

Do you know of other guys who ARE getting laid there? How are they doing it?

 

[sneaky_charm]

Fuck This,

Personally I do not. But I'm sure it's happening, even if not in a large scale.

 

[sneaky_charm]

So I asked out Girl 1 on Saturday. When the classes for the day were over, we got talking, and then I asked what she was doing tomorrow (Sunday). She said she didn't have much to do. I asked 'Do you want to XXX movie tomorrow?' She declined, saying that she is not allowed to leave the hostel (which is untrue, as other girls seem to be leaving the hostel just fine during the day).

Then, Monday comes. I talk to her again after the classes are over, and she herself asks me 'So did you watch XXX movie yesterday?' I said no. I think I lost points here because I didn't watch the movie without her. At this point, I reacted. Big mistake here. That is, I again asked her out, saying 'Do you want to watch tomorrow?'. She declined again. Two 'No's in a row.

Now, I like this other girl from the same class, lets call her Girl 2. So I walk with Girl 2 from college to home, and chitchat for 5 minutes and then say 'Do you want to watch XXX movie on Friday (we have newcomers event on Friday, and both of us are not too keen to attend)? She gives a maybe. I say I'll confirm later. But then, I didn't confirm the following day, which was Tuesday. Wednesday and Thursday were holidays.

So what do I do now? I think I already lost Girl 1, but Girl 2 is fine, too. Note that this is a small class of about 20 students. I'm eyeing 3 girls in total, including the above 2 girls. Other than that there are about 10 other girls I'm interested in in the college. So I don't want to fuck things up with everybody by getting a lot of 'No's.

 

[Fuck This]

When you are working towards getting a date you have to structure the conversation so that she more or less expresses her willingness to do what you are asking her out for.

Her: Have you seen the movie X-Men?
You : No, why is it supposed to be good? ( as if you didn't know)
Her: I hear it is awesome. Great Special effects, and the Wolverine character is hot.
You: Do you go to a lot of new release movies?
Her OH yeah!
You Are you going to see it this week?
Her: Well I don't know I hadn't planned anything yet.
You : Waiting for someone to go with?
Her: Yeah but my roommates don't like that kind of movie. (let her get the objections out ahead of time so you can work around them)
You; But you want someone to go with?
Her: yeah I hate going to movies alone.
You: Tell you what i've got a movie pass for this week and I can bring a friend, I've been wanting to see it too. When works for you? (not Do you want to go with me....)

Also known as a YES ladder....Let her express a desire, and the objections to fulfilling it. You reinforce her desire and offer a solution to her objections. IF she rejects youe solution she is contradicting herself. It is a real common sales tactic...