I've started to like a girl in my social circle. We've known about each other existence for a while but recently hanged out more in the same group and actually talked.
I've started to like her more and more now but I think I've made some mistakes and would love to hear some advice.
A few months ago, she randomly asked me via Facebook whether I'll be going abroad to a certain tropic place she heard I'm heading where she is also was going. I didn't go there, so we didn't meet.
But anyway, she randomly got in touch which probably showed interest.
Now, in the last couple of weeks, we've hanged out in the same setting a few times. It seems she fancied me too but we were all pretty wasted, so it's hard to tell for sure. There was always another guy around. Our mutual friend who is really intense and kind of took the lead with her. I don't know whether they've been intimate or not. But now when I think about it, they might have been. He is married though but bored in his relationship and publicly screwing around. He is a good friend of mine that I've know for a year or so though. But it's kinda of hard to compete with him as he is really intense and all over the place. I'm also sure he is not really into her, he is just fooling around. And there for sure will be some drama too because he is married.
Anyway, after a friends birthday a week ago, I think we had a good time and I messaged her later in the early morning, that "It was cool to meet her a little closer. and that we're trying to watch one series when we could find a wire for it" She replied almost right away, that "Finding a wire can be a tricky business
She is glad too and that we should arrange a meeting to watch it but then mentioned that other dude in the message, that she will give my message to him." I didn't really give any message to him...
I might be imagining it, but they might be hooking up or not. He was sleeping in another girls place at the time though. That I'm quite sure of, as we left him there, haha.
Ok, so now we had another hang-out at my place actually but we were all pretty wasted again. And at some point I crashed out. And they left. They went together, not sure whether they went their separate ways or to her place. (As he is married and his girlfriend was at home).
I messaged her a day later, asking whether she feels OK? (we had all kind of overdone with the booze that night). She replied also quite right away that yeah, she feels great and she finally watched that series, and how I am feeling?
So, I've been kind of stupidly been playing around the bush. But it was difficult to isolate her in the group hangout and that other dude was also constantly around her.
Should I call or text or Facebook her back and ask her out for a drink? I'm leaving for 3 week trip soon, so I was thinking this week.
If she says no, it's gonna be a little awkward since I'll be seeing her later at some point for sure. Then again, I have many social circles and can avoid that one for a bit if needed.
Can I do anything to turn it around. Try to ask her out for 1:1 for a date. If she doesn't come out, then completely stop the chase and next her?
Or next her right now before asking her out even? We have not done anything, but she should know I like her from how we interacted with each other. Especially after my first text message.
I'm probably totally overthinking this and this causes me into weak mindset. When I'm like "meeh" to girls, they seem all very interested in me. When I actually start to like someone more, it usually goes sideways
Or would it be better to try to isolate her more when I see her the next time. And build more attraction and rapport. So asking her out, would seem more natural?
Any advice would he appreciated!
I've started to like her more and more now but I think I've made some mistakes and would love to hear some advice.
A few months ago, she randomly asked me via Facebook whether I'll be going abroad to a certain tropic place she heard I'm heading where she is also was going. I didn't go there, so we didn't meet.
But anyway, she randomly got in touch which probably showed interest.
Now, in the last couple of weeks, we've hanged out in the same setting a few times. It seems she fancied me too but we were all pretty wasted, so it's hard to tell for sure. There was always another guy around. Our mutual friend who is really intense and kind of took the lead with her. I don't know whether they've been intimate or not. But now when I think about it, they might have been. He is married though but bored in his relationship and publicly screwing around. He is a good friend of mine that I've know for a year or so though. But it's kinda of hard to compete with him as he is really intense and all over the place. I'm also sure he is not really into her, he is just fooling around. And there for sure will be some drama too because he is married.
Anyway, after a friends birthday a week ago, I think we had a good time and I messaged her later in the early morning, that "It was cool to meet her a little closer. and that we're trying to watch one series when we could find a wire for it" She replied almost right away, that "Finding a wire can be a tricky business
She is glad too and that we should arrange a meeting to watch it but then mentioned that other dude in the message, that she will give my message to him." I didn't really give any message to him...I might be imagining it, but they might be hooking up or not. He was sleeping in another girls place at the time though. That I'm quite sure of, as we left him there, haha.
Ok, so now we had another hang-out at my place actually but we were all pretty wasted again. And at some point I crashed out. And they left. They went together, not sure whether they went their separate ways or to her place. (As he is married and his girlfriend was at home).
I messaged her a day later, asking whether she feels OK? (we had all kind of overdone with the booze that night). She replied also quite right away that yeah, she feels great and she finally watched that series, and how I am feeling?
So, I've been kind of stupidly been playing around the bush. But it was difficult to isolate her in the group hangout and that other dude was also constantly around her.
Should I call or text or Facebook her back and ask her out for a drink? I'm leaving for 3 week trip soon, so I was thinking this week.
If she says no, it's gonna be a little awkward since I'll be seeing her later at some point for sure. Then again, I have many social circles and can avoid that one for a bit if needed.
Can I do anything to turn it around. Try to ask her out for 1:1 for a date. If she doesn't come out, then completely stop the chase and next her?
Or next her right now before asking her out even? We have not done anything, but she should know I like her from how we interacted with each other. Especially after my first text message.
I'm probably totally overthinking this and this causes me into weak mindset. When I'm like "meeh" to girls, they seem all very interested in me. When I actually start to like someone more, it usually goes sideways
Or would it be better to try to isolate her more when I see her the next time. And build more attraction and rapport. So asking her out, would seem more natural?
Any advice would he appreciated!
