How to be Confident, Have Presence, Aggressive, etc, in Everyday Life

[Aura]

I'm fairly good-looking, or so I have been told, and of reasonable height (5'11) but I've noticed that sometimes it takes a while for people to notice that I'm around (in a situation where there are many people), or if they do notice, they don't acknowledge my existence for a while. So I think one of my largest problems now is the lack of presence and outward display of confidence. So I think my first step, even before learning game and specific seduction techniques, is to change myself personally.

I've read a few articles explaining how to portray yourself differently through body language, voice, etc, but I have a couple questions:

Among your friends and people who know you, how do you change your behavior, and more importantly, how to deal with their potential reactions?

More importantly, I live in Japan and work as an English teacher in a school, and obviously there is quite the hierarchy and I'm on the bottom (being new yet Asian-American means that I am looked on as the foreigner yet am held up to similar expectations as they hold the other teachers to). In a society where passive accommodation, not standing out, and turning the other cheek are valued, how do I maintain a confident aggressive persona without alienating others too severely?

 

[Talmadge]

A surprising amount of confidence is shown through body language. As a matter of fact, non-verbal communication is about 80% of our overall communication. The next is voice tone, which is 15%. Last, but not least is your actual words, a measly 5%. Now let's focus how you can improve body language. I'm not sure if you are a fan of crossing your arms on your chest, but if you are, you're making a big mistake that many others make. It is subliminally signaling lack of confidence and self doubt. To replace this, put your hands on your hips and slightly puff out your chest. Not only do testosterone levels rise, but you are seen as much more confident and open.

Another thing you should always try to take note of is having your back very straight, whether you're walking or sitting. Surprisingly, your back muscles actually get stronger and your posture is dominant.

I won't go into walks, but read Chase Amante's article on a sexy walk.

Next is your movement speed. Slow down your walk pace to a much slower one. Whenever you reach for something, do it slow and controlled, to the point where your movements seem fluid. Many powerful men do this: Barrack Obama, Vladimir Putin, Saddam Hussein, Tony Blair, Bill Clinton, etc... This gives the impression of strong self-control.

There are so many great articles on eye contact, so I won't bother with that, with the exception to one thing.
Have you ever been in an extremely intimidating situation before? Sure you have. A way to intimidate someone is through solid, unwavering, eye contact, and moving into their personal space. Keep in mind this could instigate a fight, but I have been forced to use it before, and most tended to back off.

Last, don't forget to read the CG article on how to have a strong masculine presence.

Hope I could help, and wish the best of luck to you! Feel free to comment back if you have anything you want to discuss or ask!