How To Be More Sexual With Girls?

[Ken]

For years, I have struggled with being sexual. There was this one time in 2016 where I cold approached this girl on campus, and I tried to bring up sex in our conversation. But the only thing it did was make the girl auto-reject me. And another one that went better, but because I wasn't as explicit about it. Overall I have difficulty with being sexual with girls because I have to think about how to bring sex into the interaction.

Recently, there's this one girl that I have been hanging out with in college that I have feelings for. And the thing is, I always found her attractive, but didn't really develop feelings for her until last month. Are these feelings real or just lust? I don't know. In fact, I am not good with telling girls that I have feelings for them.

So the question is: How do I be more sexual with girls? How do I handle having feelings for one specific girl?

 

[NealIRC]

If it doesn't work, then, try to get them to be more sexual around youuuuu.

 

[foggy]

If it doesn't work, then, try to get them to be more sexual around youuuuu.

Yeah, but you can get girls to be more sexual around you by being sexual yourself.

Ken, I have struggled with giving off a sexual vibe around girls for a long time. But I'm getting better. There are two parts: verbal and non-verbal.

Non-verbal

- Use downtones in your voice to make your conversations more intimate
- Stand closer to the girl
- Touch her
- Look at her lips
- Dominate her with eye contact
- Use a purr in your voice

Verbal

- Check out Alek's articles about how to bring up sex talk
- Misinterpret what she says:

Her: I'm going to the store soon
You: You're going to the whore house?!

- Do some role play. You're a cop and she's a criminal. You're bringing her to jail...she can bribe you out of it. But you're not looking for money. You're looking to be paid with something else....

On a totally separate note: stop watching porn, don't whack off for a few weeks...you will feel and become more sexual.

 

[Ken]

If it doesn't work, then, try to get them to be more sexual around youuuuu.

And how do I do that?

songbird fog,

I have been able to go weeks without watching porn, but masturbating is a different story. How do I go weeks without masturbating?

 

[Michal]

I have been able to go weeks without watching porn, but masturbating is a different story. How do I go weeks without masturbating?

Get busy and have a time schedule like wake up at 6 and go to bed at 11 pm. If you have shit to work on and suddenly it is 10:45, you just have to fight the urge not to do it for 15 minutes. You will take a shower and brush your teeth in that time and then just fight the urge for any time remaining. It is a lot harder if you have nothing to do for 5 hours, nobody is home and you dont have the discipline to hold back built up yet. Key to success is having good everyday habits.

At the most basic level, it is the sexual energy that "makes" you masturbate. So channel that energy in something else.

 

[Seppuku]

Ken,

regarding getting sexual, there is also the option of sexual humor and innuendo. It's my favorite approach by text. Here is a recent example on my Whatsapp:

Her: she explains she was at the dentist
Me: How many teeth you have? (Skeptical emoji)
Her: 32.
Me: Good. I don't speak to girls with less than 17 teeth (laughing emoji)
Her: Hahaha still got it all
Me: great. You qualify.
Me: And I don't speak to girls who have less than two boobs
Her: she sends a selfie
Me: Nice. But it doesn't tell me how many boobs you have
Her: Still got my two big mangoes
Me: Alright. When is the last time you counted them?
Her: Today while taking shower
Me: Are you sure you didn't leave one at the dentist?
Etc... It's a lot of fun!

Some of these innuendos, I try to re-use if I can. The one above is a little too specific (dentist), but I may still re-use the "how many boobs do you have?" With time, I accumulated several ideas that I keep re-using - like a library - and it makes it easier and easier to introduce a sexual tone. Example: talking about cooking? The French sausage with lemon. Taking about pets? "I have a dog. He doesn't have legs, but has two rear wheels!" My friend Paul? "he's a lovable dick, if I may say so. I will need to introduce you to him". Etc... That's by text, but some of these also work face-to face on a date.

What I also like to do on a date, is to touch her sexually - like her boobs. For that, you need a good, flirty vibe, some emotional connection, and she must be already used to your touch (forearms, hands, hair etc...). One way is to take a skeptical and slightly look, slowly approach your hand, and cup her boob, feel it, then remove the hand. It has to be executed with *zero* nervousness. You then get a slow, sexy smile, and say "Oh! so it was not the bra!". She will normally smile and have a comment like "Of course, what were you thinking?". Now you're in sexual territory.

Seppuku

 

[Ken]

Thank you for the advice. So, how do I deal with having feelings for a girl that is in my social circle?

 

[Fuck This]

Thank you for the advice. So, how do I deal with having feelings for a girl that is in my social circle?

Ken what is your interaction with said girl? Classmate?, buddies sister?, fellow club member?

Basically it comes down to having a fun conversation with some joking and light teasing. Purposefully misinterpret something she says in a sexual manner and then blame her for "opening that door" with a smile. If she picks up the innuendo and returns the tease, then keep it going....

It takes some practice to interpret body language and vocal cues to determine if a girl is ready for sexual talk. Be prepared to crash and burn a few times when you push it too far.

Truth is though it is easier to learn when your judgement is not clouded by "FEEEEELINGS" i just realized that the 20 years of marriage I had afforded me plenty of opportunities to "practice" with independance from the outcome...My out if a woman hooked hard was , "Oh I was just having fun......" Then once I had my independance I could actually escalate....Oh man that was fun!

 

[Ken]

Fuck This,

She is a friend of mine who goes to the same college that I do.

 

[Fuck This]

OK to me Social Circle is someone I see every week or two. I may or may not have their phone number. We recognize each other, and know each other's names. We have friends in common.

Your Question is too open ended. Read this : https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-a ... ys-get-yes

 

[WalkWithMe]

Hey Ken,

Being more sexual around girls is a mindset. However this only works if you truly do not care about whether or not the girl will be receptive. The reason most guys hold back on innuendo and jokes and steering conversations towards sex is that they are afraid of 'getting caught'. If you are truly, really not afraid of this, then the tension from your side will be gone and it will work like a charm. And if a girl does not react in the same sexual way you can maybe try once more but hten move on to the next.

You have to find out what works best for you, though. I am definitely the 'misinterpret-what-she-says-in-a-funny-and-sexual-way'-type. Very verbal. But you could be more of the non-verbal type, radiating your sexuality.

You will fail initially. A lot. As it will come across as contrived but once you get it ingrained in your system it goes naturally and girls actually love it. They are sexual themselves as well.

As for the one in the social circle. As hard as it sounds; try to get her out of your head, as mentioned by Fuck This (nice name btw) it will cloud your judgement. Keep her around and hook up with other beautiful girls. If she sees you hooking up with other, desirable women, she might see you as a prize someday as well.

 

[foggy]

I have been able to go weeks without watching porn, but masturbating is a different story. How do I go weeks without masturbating?

Have you ever been horny as shit and went out to talk to girls? Personally when I'm feening I notice a considerable increase in approach invitations and engagement from girls who I do open. It really helps!

Either they unconsciously sense it, or it impacts my vibe in a good way...or both.

But yeah, it's a good feeling and it makes you not want to wack off so you can take advantage of the results.