How to Boyfriend Disqualifier?

[Bboy100]

How do I weave a boyfriend disqualifier into the conversation? If I'm on vacation or I'm visiting the city or something like that, it's obviously implied. But what about when I'm at home? The only viable way I can think of is to ask her what she's looking for first, hen follow up with my BF disqualifier. But if I do that, she'll usually say she's looking for something more long-term as a form of ASD...which is ofc, a bad frame to set.

 

[normajean106]

I don't know for sure, but I believe you don't actually talk to her specifically about it. Rather, its implied by your actions.

Like I said, I don't know a lot about this topic. I'd prefer to hear an answer from someone with more expertise, actually. I just want to get the ball rolling here, lol.

 

[Bboy100]

Ideally it will just be extremely obvious by what kind of guy you are, and there is no real need to explicitly verbalize it.

Yeah...I get mixed reviews from girls in this area. Some of them slot me as a clear BF, some of them slot me as a clear lover. I never know which I'm gonna get. So I feel like for now, I do need a little bit of a crutch to up my consistency.

Part of the reason I posted this question is because of this section of Chase's article on BF disqualifiers:

So how can you disqualify yourself as a potential boyfriend? Here are some common ways you might disqualify yourself as a boyfriend to a woman you’ve met:

Let her know you have a girlfriend or are in a relationship

Let her know you’re newly out of a relationship and still recovering and not looking to get involved

Let her know you’re on travel and only in town another night or two

Let her know you’re moving out of town and will be far away

Let her know you have all kinds of friends in your life, but that when it comes to serious dating, you usually only date girls of XYZ race / nationality (something different than her)

Let her know you’re not really all that sure about relationships anymore, and not even sure you want to have another one (in a very neutral, non-negative / pessimistic way)

I assumed it was part of Chase's process to literally use one of those lines. But it's just not clear to me how he smoothly weaves it into the convo.

just tell a story of a woman you were dating for just a couple weeks and then she started asking to move in...man, it was so crazy, I'm the kind of person who doesn't make huge decisions like that for a long, long time, but she wanted to get all serious instead of just having fun and enjoying each others' company, so I had to let her go. Anyway, *back to some other thread*

Perfect! I'll try this on my next date.