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Hey guys, lay #2 right here. Not gonna go into too much detail, but will post some of the texting, hope some of the newer guys can learn something from it. I set up a way too boyfriendish precedent, but managed to correct it and break it off on good terms.
Background
I met this girl (let's call her Sonja) before the summer holidays. She's bestfriends with my buddy's girlfriend. I had met her before, but back then she had a serious boyfriend. I complimented how her eyes where very tigerish and she replied that nobody has ever said anything like that to her - Not even her ex. I then asked her shortly after some more smalltalk if she'd like to go out sometime and she agreed immediately and gave me her number. I tried to set a date up before the holidays, but exams and her going home made it difficult.
First Night
Two weeks ago I met her at a pregame at my buddy's place (the one dating the bestfriend). It was on from the moment we said hi. I oozed spezzatura, didn't talk to much with her and just did some light touching. Her bestfriend started asking me what I thought about her n stuff. I just laughed and said that I liked being single, not having to worry about any jealousy, but I thought Sonja was cute. Me and Sonja left the pregame together and while walking between bars we would hold hands (this was probably too couple'ish) At the last bar we danced a bit and made out. At the end of the night I told her we were going home to my place for some wine:
Lol, wasn't any real resistance. Back at my place I poured us some wine, we made out, but she wouldnt go any further. She said she had to find a taxi home, I just told her she could stay over. She slept over, but wouldnt take her clothes off in bed. Tried again in the morning but no budge.I persisted in a playful and non needy way so she never got mad. She was leaving town for a week and we agreed to set up a date when she came back
Second night
I was going to text her in the beginning of this week but she texted me first. Already then I knew this was in the bag. We set up something for sunday, but she then texted me and told me she was going to the same pregame as me on saturday. Fuck I thought, did not need this girl to get too close to one of my social circles as I was already flirting with some other girls there. To avoid any jealousy plotlines I found another pregame and told her I couldn't make it, but we could meet at a bar (I don't recommend you do this, but this girl was chasing me so hard she would have met me anywhere). When I was still on my way downtown my buddy (whos so whipped btw) starts calling and tells me Sonja is with him and his girlfriend and I can find them at x bar. This really annoyed me because it wasn't low key at all + it was clear that Sonjas best friend wanted to set us up as a couple. I avoided them for a while when I got downtown but around 1 am I meet them after Sonja double texts me "where at y bar now", and "where are you?" Jeeez. I got there and acted like everything was cool. We chill and talk for about half hour before we agree to get some late night food. My buddy, his girlfriend and his roomate went to a kebab shop. Me and Sonja went to a pizzeria next to my apartment. We got some pizza, we ate a piece each back at my place and started making out. I then led her to bed. Before I started escalating I told her:
It kinda freaked her out. She told me she didn't know what to say, but she appreciated me being honest. I then started escalating and there was close to no LMR, I just made sure to take time while escalating. The sex was unfortunately bad, the condom felt weird and she wasnt that hot naked so it kinda turned me off. I have to work on the adapted missionary... After about 30 min I came while she was riding me. We cuddled a while before we fell asleep.
Today
When we wake up we cuddle a bit, eat some pizza and she takes a shower before she leaves. I text her in the evening: (this may sound kinda gay and awkward, just google translated most of the texting)
Thoughts
- Always set the right expectations with the girl from the get go. That way there can be no confusions and nobody gets hurt. Luckily this ended on good terms.
- Honesty is hot.
- Completed one of my goals which was to have sex sober (or almost sober), next step is to get higher quality girls. I have a date with a cute german on tuesday.
- Right now I'm just reaping the benefits of all of my hard work from the past 10 months. I'm starting to flake on girls I don't consider hot enough, I have too much other stuff going on lol.
Hope you learned something from this report. Until next time guys!
tvktvk
Background
I met this girl (let's call her Sonja) before the summer holidays. She's bestfriends with my buddy's girlfriend. I had met her before, but back then she had a serious boyfriend. I complimented how her eyes where very tigerish and she replied that nobody has ever said anything like that to her - Not even her ex. I then asked her shortly after some more smalltalk if she'd like to go out sometime and she agreed immediately and gave me her number. I tried to set a date up before the holidays, but exams and her going home made it difficult.
First Night
Two weeks ago I met her at a pregame at my buddy's place (the one dating the bestfriend). It was on from the moment we said hi. I oozed spezzatura, didn't talk to much with her and just did some light touching. Her bestfriend started asking me what I thought about her n stuff. I just laughed and said that I liked being single, not having to worry about any jealousy, but I thought Sonja was cute. Me and Sonja left the pregame together and while walking between bars we would hold hands (this was probably too couple'ish) At the last bar we danced a bit and made out. At the end of the night I told her we were going home to my place for some wine:
Lol, wasn't any real resistance. Back at my place I poured us some wine, we made out, but she wouldnt go any further. She said she had to find a taxi home, I just told her she could stay over. She slept over, but wouldnt take her clothes off in bed. Tried again in the morning but no budge.I persisted in a playful and non needy way so she never got mad. She was leaving town for a week and we agreed to set up a date when she came back
Second night
I was going to text her in the beginning of this week but she texted me first. Already then I knew this was in the bag. We set up something for sunday, but she then texted me and told me she was going to the same pregame as me on saturday. Fuck I thought, did not need this girl to get too close to one of my social circles as I was already flirting with some other girls there. To avoid any jealousy plotlines I found another pregame and told her I couldn't make it, but we could meet at a bar (I don't recommend you do this, but this girl was chasing me so hard she would have met me anywhere). When I was still on my way downtown my buddy (whos so whipped btw) starts calling and tells me Sonja is with him and his girlfriend and I can find them at x bar. This really annoyed me because it wasn't low key at all + it was clear that Sonjas best friend wanted to set us up as a couple. I avoided them for a while when I got downtown but around 1 am I meet them after Sonja double texts me "where at y bar now", and "where are you?" Jeeez. I got there and acted like everything was cool. We chill and talk for about half hour before we agree to get some late night food. My buddy, his girlfriend and his roomate went to a kebab shop. Me and Sonja went to a pizzeria next to my apartment. We got some pizza, we ate a piece each back at my place and started making out. I then led her to bed. Before I started escalating I told her:
It kinda freaked her out. She told me she didn't know what to say, but she appreciated me being honest. I then started escalating and there was close to no LMR, I just made sure to take time while escalating. The sex was unfortunately bad, the condom felt weird and she wasnt that hot naked so it kinda turned me off. I have to work on the adapted missionary... After about 30 min I came while she was riding me. We cuddled a while before we fell asleep.
Today
When we wake up we cuddle a bit, eat some pizza and she takes a shower before she leaves. I text her in the evening: (this may sound kinda gay and awkward, just google translated most of the texting)
me - Hey, had fun yesterday/today, hope you had a good time
Sonja - Had a good time, but quite frankly I'm left with a lot of questions. Finding it a bit heavy to take up so early, but since you mentioned it yesterday, I'd like to talk to you about what your expectations are for this. We do not need to discuss it via text, but I need at least a little chat. Know this probably sounds crazy serious, but I just want us to be "on the same page". I'm left with the feeling that you might not have time for me, but maybe I just misunderstood
me - I realize what I said must have been confusingAnd no, it's good that we discuss it now so we are actually on the same page. It started with me being uncomfortable whith the way my buddy started calling me several times yesterday. I know that your best friend and buddy only have good intentions, but it just stressed me out, I was going to meet you anyway. I feel that when friends interfere with these things they get the expectations of how things should go ... What actually happens is first and foremost between us. I'd like to see you again when I come back from my trip, but I do not see myself in a committed relationship in the near future. Therefore I got the feeling that I can't give you everything you need
Sonja - I truly regret drawing them into this, it was wrong of me and I do not think I realized that he contacted you so many times! Fully agree that this is between you and me. I think you're wonderful guy and I enjoy myself when I'm with you, but as I said to you yesterday and I put a lot of emotional effort when I'm with a guy, and I'm quite frankly looking for someone that will set aside time to be with me. I don't expect to see you several times a week in the start, butI'm not the type to date multiple guys at once or just have a casual relationship with someone. So it depends a little on what you are looking for ... if you're just looking for innocent fun I don't think that I could be cool with that, which really sucks because I want to get to know you better.
me - The first time I met you last year I thought it really sucked that you had a boyfriend because I thought you were wonderful
Sonja - Trust me, I truly wish that I was able to just take things as they come and not think so much, but that's unfortunately not the case. Like you I must think of myself, and I know I'm going to get hurt if I get to know you better and eventually want it to become something more, when you do not want the same. This really sucks, but it sounds like we might just end things now
me - Looks like it yeah =/ I hope you find everything you want Sonja, you deserve it really! I appreciate the time we've had together and hope you do the same
You are so nice! I do appreciate it and I'm glad I got to know you better, and I really had fun, which is why this situation sucks! You have no idea how happy I was when you asked for my number, it was really just what I needed! It's probably very likely that we meet again, so I'm At least happy we've ended things on good terms
me - Me too
Sonja - Hahah ya I will!
Thoughts
- Always set the right expectations with the girl from the get go. That way there can be no confusions and nobody gets hurt. Luckily this ended on good terms.
- Honesty is hot.
- Completed one of my goals which was to have sex sober (or almost sober), next step is to get higher quality girls. I have a date with a cute german on tuesday.
- Right now I'm just reaping the benefits of all of my hard work from the past 10 months. I'm starting to flake on girls I don't consider hot enough, I have too much other stuff going on lol.
Hope you learned something from this report. Until next time guys!
tvktvk
