How to calibrate to this dynamic?

[foggy]

I’ve been spending a lot of time calibrating to dynamics.

Like the dynamic of sweeping away energetic arousal girls. Or the one with low key girls who respond to social proof and perspectives.

One dynamic where I currently stand to learn the most is the dominant-submissive dynamic.

I want more consistency…so I am looking for basic pointers on how to calibrate to it.

It would be cool to know how to behave. Specific vibes & frames. Non-verbals. Vocal tones to use. Strategies, tactics, techniques. What she wants in the dynamic. Common patterns when calibrating. Everything is welcome.

Here’s some specific behavioural examples I have had trouble calibrating to in this dynamic

• Girl shows up to the date and is in a state of seeking validation from me
• She starts acting like a little girl around me

 

[FunGuy]

Imo you should just continue to smoothly stack forward with your process/routines and not worry too much about that particular sub/dom dynamic as it shouldn't really affect anything. The only time it might be relevant is when you guys start talking about sex and what you like/dislike then that is your chance to talk about it, other than that game as you normally would.

• Girl shows up to the date and is in a state of seeking validation from me

I've been getting this a lot lately too. I have accidentally found a way to trigger this behavior and was thinking about starting a topic about this since it can work to your advantage. What has been working well for me is toning down the teasing and upping the compliments/qualifiers.

 

[DarkJedi]

I think you should consider another added angle when considering the dom/sub dynamic: self esteem. There can be submissive girls with high self esteem as well as ones with low self esteem, and they respond to different things.

The HSE girl will be usually warm, happy and positive, loves being teased and even invites to be teased by being self deprecating for example. But she thinks highly of herself. High tendency to seek validation from you. I've had success with these types. Usually being warm, playful and teasing helps. A frame of the fun father figure who finds her silly and cute, but who disciplines her if she gets bratty. For me the thing to watch out for is to not drop the ball and be too warm and attainable. They still need to look up to you.

The LSE girl OTOH is colder/darker and more low key. Certain things they say show they think low of themselves. I've never done well with these types. I think they need you to "treat them bad" or cold. Any hint of attainability pushes them away. Maybe being cold but aggressively sub-communicating dominant and sexual traits might help. I have had a recent fuck up with this kind of a girl. Will post an FR soon.

• Girl shows up to the date and is in a state of seeking validation from me
• She starts acting like a little girl around me

Seems more like the happy type to me