How to come across as more of an authority with women?

[Kaida]

The other day, I was at a fast food restaurant that the student section came to after the football game. I was waiting in a huge line talking to my friends and a 5’3 girl who was actually pretty cute absentmindedly step on my shoe while talking to her friends. We were in a tight crowd so she accidently backed up into me as well.

Didn’t really care. Was about to keep talking to my friend before she seemed to suddenly realize. She turned around and said “Oops, did I step on your shoe? I’m so sorry that’s my fault” in this retarded motherly voice that almost assumed authority.

It didn’t feel like she was trying to tool me or test me either - I was confused as hell. This little girl has to basically crane her neck to look at me and is talking to me like this. I tapped her on the shoulder without looking at her, said it was fine, and turned back to my friends.

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How can I come across as more of an authority to women? I have decent posture, and am quite tall (6’) and muscular already. I know that these things are just the tip of the iceberg, so what else can I do to make myself seem authoritative to women so that they respect me?

 

[Warped Mindless]

Was she attractive? Tease her about having to step in your shoes to get your attention.

You are overthinking it. When talking to women just control the frame and don’t put her on a pedestal. That’s authority enough really. Men tend to really overthink this because of ego.

 

[Kaida]

Was she attractive? Tease her about having to step in your shoes to get your attention.

Great idea, def using this. Normally tho, chase frames tend to backfire hard in my experience when there are friends around (they were observing our conversation). The girl rejects it outright most of the time if you guys are not alone. Am I wrong?

You are overthinking it. When talking to women just control the frame and don’t put her on a pedestal. That’s authority enough really. Men tend to really overthink this because of ego.

Good to know. Thanks for your input

 

[Terms]

Confused about the issue. That's just basic good manners, she was valuing you and being respectful of you. Probably saying what her mother taught her to say, yes.

What's interesting here is you saw basic respect and good manners as "authority," which is another way of saying "high value." Which is a good example of how giving value and respect to others (in a non-supplicating way) can raise people's perception of your own value and authority.

 

[Kaida]

Confused about the issue. That's just basic good manners, she was valuing you and being respectful of you. Probably saying what her mother taught her to say, yes.

From yalls comments it looks like I’m overthinking it a lot. Ego probably. My bad

What's interesting here is you saw basic respect and good manners as "authority," which is another way of saying "high value." Which is a good example of how giving value and respect to others (in a non-supplicating way) can raise people's perception of your own value and authority.

Ah, very true observation. There’s always something to learn.