How To Compete With A Girls Crush

[Mr Mistah]

You're interested in a girl and she's responding well to your advances but at the same time she's crushing on another guy within the same social circle.

The guy is however 100% oblivious she exists.

While you run game she's still receptive but you get the feeling that the investment you're getting from her is not the same as what she'd have given the guy she's crushing on if he was hitting on her.

There's nothing considerably better than him per se. All there is is that he takes better care of himself than most men and can hold his own in social situations.

Other than that you can't really see anything that would make you go "Oh I see, he has better fundamentals."

Just a regular guy. Nothing to write home about

You've also managed to set sexual frames to the extent that the girl tells you explicit things about her sexual past, makes sex jokes, tells you about what she's into and even tell you about her crushes (fml what zone is this haha)

This is done carefully so as to not set friendzone/therapist frames.

You are virile + horny and she knows it.

How do you deal? How do you compete against a girls naturally ocurring crush?

 

[ulrich]

You’re really worrying about a guy who pays no attention to her and she has not explicitly mentioned in your conversations with you?

I think you’re overreacting here.

Just game her and be extra careful of discretion.

If the girl has no real chance with her “crush”, she will follow suit and if she brings the subject, you can deal with it.
But I see no reason on fretting over girls’ unlikely crushes.

 

[Zoro]

You move things forward.

Happens all the time. The guy who does not act loses the girl to the man who does.

 

[Chase]

@Mr Mistah,

Here is the formula:

Put peen in vajajay and hump her really well.

Rinse and repeat 3x times. Then 10x-20x more times over next several weeks/months.

Guys she is crushing on will look lame, then boring, then eventually she will forget what she ever saw in him as the in-love emotions flood her brain for you.

If you are not sure how to put peen in vajajay, then that is a separate topic, and has nothing to do with this guy, who is not competing for this girl with you at all. That topic should probably be something like "How to get a date with a girl from your social circle?" or "How to hook up with a social circle girl?" etc.

Chase

 

[Mr Mistah]

Thank you for the responses.

I guess I was just converned about not being her first choice guy.

Nobody likes playing second fiddle you see.

The competition may be asleep for now but its not very encouraging knowing that if he even gave her the slightest opening she'd drop everything and run to him.

A guy takes your girl with just a flick of his wrist.

And we all know how irrational and stubborn infatuation can be. So much that she even asked me to help her find flaws in the guy so she can stop obsessing over him :/

But I take it that PinV will solve this9

 

[Mr Mistah]

Y'all lied

I hugged this girl today

Kinda drunk

But she said that I'm "ruining it for her potentials" while referencing her crush who was nearby

It hurt. I feel like shit

I really like this girl

 

[Zoro]

Y'all lied

I hugged this girl today

Kinda drunk

But she said that I'm "ruining it for her potentials" while referencing her crush who was nearby

It hurt. I feel like shit

I really like this girl

Yeah, sounds like you’re making moves and he’s not. What’s the problem?

 

[topcat]

Y'all lied

I hugged this girl today

Kinda drunk

But she said that I'm "ruining it for her potentials" while referencing her crush who was nearby

It hurt. I feel like shit

I really like this girl

damn near a year later?!! what were you doing in that time? if you’ve only just mustered up the courage to hug her whilst being around her that long, you missed your opportunity years ago..and her potentials have way more potential than you do.

 

[Zoro]

damn near a year later?!! what were you doing in that time? if you’ve only just mustered up the courage to hug her whilst being around her that long, you missed your opportunity years ago..and her potentials have way more potential than you do.

Wait a year ago? You’ve got bigger problems than this girl.

It’s called Oneitis.

Learn from this time. Make your moves or move on.

 

[topcat]

Wait a year ago? You’ve got bigger problems than this girl.

lol check the dates bruv

passing a quiz on the fundamental materials on the main site like “move fast” “don’t chase, replace” should be mandatory for membership on the forum..

too much mediocre foolishness from beginners clogging up the place lately..

 

[Mr Mistah]

She had a bf They broke up

She moved to me. Asked me if we an go back to the way things are

I felt like I was being used as a rebound so I didn't really respond (I am proud)

But the feelings I had for her kind of rushed back (even after I thought I had moved on)

I had cut contact. Today she asked me why I don't text her anymore like I used to ( I gave a BS response. She hugs me everyday on her own accord. But now I feel like its plstonically)

Bur truth be told. Hard as I might like to act, I like this girl. All other girls don't do it for me

This is my truth.

 

[topcat]

She had a bf They broke up

She moved to me. Asked me if we an go back to the way things are

I felt like I was being used as a rebound so I didn't really respond (I am proud)

But the feelings I had for her kind of rushed back (even after I thought I had moved on)

I had cut contact. Today she asked me why I don't text her anymore like I used to ( I gave a BS response. She hugs me everyday on her own accord. But now I feel like its plstonically)

Bur truth be told. Hard as I might like to act, I like this girl. All other girls don't do it for me

This is my truth.

bruh. rebounds get laid. you’re not even a rebound, you’re an emotional support boy.

how are you so caught up on a girl you’ve never fucked? so much so that “other girls don’t do it for me”.

if you learnt today that you will never fuck this girl ever, would you still be happy throwing other potential lays aside for the glory of basking in the whiff of pussy-never-to-be-yours?

As you are, that pussy will never be your, let me tell you.

 

[Mr Mistah]

Because the opportunity presents itself and I don't take it

I have bad logistics

And I'm conscious about that

That's really it.

Girls show interest. Including this girl

But I'm not confident enough to pull bc of my logistics.

I am self conscious. That is my truth

 

[Zoro]

She had a bf They broke up

She moved to me. Asked me if we an go back to the way things are

I felt like I was being used as a rebound so I didn't really respond (I am proud)

But the feelings I had for her kind of rushed back (even after I thought I had moved on)

I had cut contact. Today she asked me why I don't text her anymore like I used to ( I gave a BS response. She hugs me everyday on her own accord. But now I feel like its plstonically)

Bur truth be told. Hard as I might like to act, I like this girl. All other girls don't do it for me

This is my truth.

I understand the complexity and emotional ups and downs in dating.

However your goal requires the same thing, the same advice we have been saying. Make moves or move on.

All your feelings are doing are getting in the way. Get them sorted, get grounded and take some action.

Another thing, take note how you’re letting her call the shots. That’s bad news. Decide what you want and take the lead. If she doesn’t want to join, find a girl who does.

 

[Mr Mistah]

I understand the complexity and emotional ups and downs in dating.

However your goal requires the same thing, the same advice we have been saying. Make moves or move on.

All your feelings are doing are getting in the way. Get them sorted, get grounded and take some action.

Another thing, take note how you’re letting her call the shots. That’s bad news. Decide what you want and take the lead. If she doesn’t want to join, find a girl who does.

I understand.

I thought I had moved on

Till she started to show interest then rebuffed me

Why would you do?

Whatever you say, I will implement

As hurt as I may be

 

[Zoro]

Because the opportunity presents itself and I don't take it

I have bad logistics

And I'm conscious about that

That's really it.

Girls show interest. Including this girl

But I'm not confident enough to pull bc of my logistics.

I am self conscious. That is my truth

Your truth is an excuse. I know bad logistics can get in the way. But there’s always a way with enough gusto, enough mojo, enough creativity. Get in the game. We’re rooting for you.

I’ve had first dates at my parents, in parks, in the back of cars, at friends houses, at her house, etc.

 

[Zoro]

I understand.

I thought I had moved on

Till she started to show interest then rebuffed me

Why would you do?

Whatever you say, I will implement

As hurt as I may be

I would try and forget her. Find reliable ways to meet more girls and build a good social circle. Get involved in your passions. And if you have some decent daygame spots, day game today.

 

[Hydra™]

As hurt as I may be

What kind of corny shit is this

 

[ulrich]

I have bad logistics

And I'm conscious about that

That's really it.

Fix your logistics, maybe??

I am self conscious. That is my truth

Come on man, “my truth” is what losers say so they have permission to bullshit themselves.
You’re better than that.

 

[Mr Mistah]

Was at a party today.

Made out with two girls in the dark while smoking a J.
They like me and are responsive

But I also tried to go for it with the girl in this thread. She dodged when I tried despite us being in the dark

Could be because we were around people and she's shy. Or maybe she's not interested. Idk

What I know is that she spent the whole time chasing after her crush and trying to talk to him. He seems not to care

It was strange. Found myself in a conversation with him and brought this up. Asked him if he knows that the girl is into him.

He said he's not oblivious and can read the signs. He's just not interested

I'd like to know. How am I losing to competition that's not even competing?

I can get two girls to make out with me. Why not this one?

And before you tell me I'm fixated on this one girl. Yes I am.

I cultivated options so my emotions are much more tempered than last time.

But I still take losing personally and don't know how to take it with grace