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How to continue seeing a girl (casual dating) after hooking up

mindful

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Hi guys, I recently met a girl that was super into me from the get-go. We met at a bar a little over a week ago. I read the signs well that she was into me, and at the end of the night she was in my bed. Since then, I have hung out with her one other time, in which i went to her apt and we again had sex. After we had sex, we had a 30-40 min convo before i left and went home (she had to be up early for work). In this convo, she reveals more about herself that she normally doesn't tell too many people about (what she said).

Anyways, I like this girl and want to continue hanging out with her as a casual dating partner. However, this is new to me (casual dating scene). Would it be tabu to go out to eat together, grab a drink, ice cream, etc since we are already in the sexual realm? Do i keep it more as a you come over to my spot or I go over to yours type thing? I feel like doing that she will think I just want her for sex.

I hope my question was clear enough, thanks.
 
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Franco

Tribal Elder
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mindful,

Do i keep it more as a you come over to my spot or I go over to yours type thing? I feel like doing that she will think I just want her for sex.

In general, that's what I want most women to think when I'm first seeing them; I'm this great guy that seems to only want sex. This gives the girl a challenge: can I make this amazing guy want me for more than sex?

I would not recommend taking her out on a date after just having slept with her. That's going backwards. Right now, she wants to see you because she enjoys the sex with you, and you haven't damaged her or her reputation, which is one of a girl's biggest concerns after just having slept with a new guy. Instead, you want to invite her over to your place (or go to her place) and enjoy as much sex as you possibly can. While you're there, you can of course order or cook some food so that you can converse and enjoy each others' company in between rounds of sex. But ultimately, you want to let HER chase the relationship while you lay back and let her come to you. =)

EDIT: I just noticed you said that you wanted to keep this casual. You definitely don't want to take her out anywhere if you want to keep this casual. You only invite her over to your place. If you treat her well and the sex is good, she'll love you for it.

- Franco
 
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