How to create an amazing social life after college that involves partying.

[Estate]

What I would like to know is how a guy can incorporate a career like doctor, lawyer, engineer, or such along with game and fucking women.

This is exactly where Drexel and I were attempting to take the conversation... (from real life experience)

How to be successful career and live well. While also having a social life which can bring women and good people around you.
All while not having to burn yourself out in dead end jobs and non-stop partying.
From my early days here I've learned so much in this area.

Of course that was before the xenophobic rant which has since been removed and telling us where to shove our opinions, so....

 

[trashKENNUT]

Everyone,

You guys do have to take Estate and DrexelScott point, to a certain degree. Having a safety net does help, like being allowed to enter work at a later time or your job is freelance.

As a student before, who teach dance at centers and school, having exams, school curriculum and projects, and working as a marketer. Three of those things together at one go for one year, adding on trying to be cool and popular at school.

It can burn you down if you do not allocate time and rest. IT CAN BURN YOU DOWN.

Zac

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I was not exactly saying cold approach is a bad idea itself but I find that using just cold approach and online dating won't net you that much quality and aren't the best methods by themselves. IMO, cold approach and online dating work well as supplements but not exactly as the key source themselves. I was referencing to how a guy can put himself in situations to build a lifestyle that puts him into contact with good looking women in a social circle, activity, or that sort of manner. In college if you were a fraternity brother, you had sororities you did things with and such. I am asking how a guy in the real world can build a social circle that consists of good looking women outside of work at least. How he can put himself into contact with good looking women by having commonalities with them or activities/lifestyle choices he can pursue that will make it a possibility.

 

[Rusty]

What I have always found to be the greatest strength of cold approach is the ability to meet women and create a genuine abundance mentality. If you rely solely or primarily on social circle, the number of women you meet is very fixed, the chances she's been intimate with friends/people you know can create complicated relationships and you're also competing with other men on a different value system (it's very difficult to hook up and maintain space and distance between women because they WILL talk amongst each other and create drama because of residual feelings).

There's a lot more reputation management, especially on the women's side, and they're going to more readily try to slot you in a provider role, because since you have mutual friends and acquaintances, if people find out you guys are just hooking up, she risks being labeled as a slut, so if she does like you, she'll bide her time, keep things more platonic at first, or do things to try and slot you into a boyfriend role. That also means she'll be a lot more scrutinizing and judgmental in her choice of men, and will naturally pit you against the men she knows around you. (which can be good or bad, depending on how sharp your game is and how well put together you are and your lifestyle design)

If you cold approach, you come in as an outsider whose value is in flux in her eyes, and you become the determinant of your own value in her eyes based on how you present yourself and your interactions with her initially.

There's pros and cons to every medium of dating, if you will, but I find that cold approach (at least in a large city) can yield you the best results with less hassle and the less chances that the women you date know each other and create drama for you.

 

[Franco]

Proactivity,

I was not exactly saying cold approach is a bad idea itself but I find that using just cold approach and online dating won't net you that much quality and aren't the best methods by themselves.

This is also not true, however. Cold approach can net you plenty of quality, but the quality is proportional to your skill level. Until you get really good, the quality of women you get will tend to bounce around the lower areas until your improve upon the necessary traits. But once you become good at it, the world is basically your oyster, and nothing else even comes close. Rusty has a solid explanation of this.

Online dating, on the other hand, is definitely more susceptible to quality issues. Occasionally you can net yourself a gem through it, but it's almost entirely random if you do, and the odds are so low that the amount of hours you'll put into it just to net a high quality girl will be completely inefficient compared to your ability to do it with cold approach (or elite social circle game).

I am asking how a guy in the real world can build a social circle that consists of good looking women outside of work at least. How he can put himself into contact with good looking women by having commonalities with them or activities/lifestyle choices he can pursue that will make it a possibility.

This is fine, but it is also a slightly different question from what the OP was asking (and a separate argument from the one that was being made above about cold approach). If you want more specific responses to something like this, it would be best to make a new post about it.

- Franco

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Well Franco, I might have thought too much into this post here then:

Frat boys get a chance to be friends with cool guys, party a lot, drink a lot, and fuck hot girls.

Frat boys from my experience rarely cold approach as much, they use social events and social circles to get sorority girls. I never had a chance to be in a college fraternity due to finances but I know that they have that social circle and activities to help them net more hookups with girls they already know.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Actually I was thinking about that part as well, basically, I was asking how to get a fraternity like experience after college that involves:

1. The wild parties.

2. A source meeting and interacting with hot girls (rather than having to rely on cold approach).

3. A brotherhood of cool friends, not guys who will attack me for wanting to party a lot and fuck hot girls (like some in this thread obviously have).

 

[Franco]

Oh Pry,

Actually I was thinking about that part as well, basically, I was asking how to get a fraternity like experience after college that involves:

1. The wild parties.

2. A source meeting and interacting with hot girls (rather than having to rely on cold approach).

3. A brotherhood of cool friends, not guys who will attack me for wanting to party a lot and fuck hot girls (like some in this thread obviously have).

Your question and Proactivity's question has essentially already been answered then. I would say that becoming involved in the nightlife industry, whether that's becoming a bouncer, a bartender, a club promoter, etc., is essentially the best way to do this. At the same time, those jobs all require a high degree of social aptitude, so if you're not good at talking to women, then you're not going to succeed in those areas.

The same goes with a fraternity. If you don't have a given level of social aptitude in communicating with women, none of the sorority sisters will sleep with you. You'll watch all of your socially adept fraternity brothers sleeping with them while you get the occasional good conversation with one here and there.

There's no "easy" way to sleep with hot girls. Your social aptitude and ability to communicate with women determines the amount of opportunities you'll have to sleep with them. So make sure you focus on increasing your social awareness and aptitude -- this will likely be required for you to be hired in the nightlight industry anyway.

- Franco

 

[trashKENNUT]

OP,

1. The wild parties.

2. A source meeting and interacting with hot girls (rather than having to rely on cold approach).

3. A brotherhood of cool friends, not guys who will attack me for wanting to party a lot and fuck hot girls (like some in this thread obviously have).

Er number 1 is the wilder it gets, the more susceptible you are to car accidents and fights, getting questioned by police officers, and getting backstab by 'friends' you just made there. I have past friends who have nose sewed because of fights and i had a high school friend who died last year because he mix with the wrong crowd and from what i learn, they threw him out while they were driving and the ambulance only found him 20 mins later.

Sure, it doesn't happen often. As Chase always noted, Stay away from sketchy people.

A brotherhood of cool friends? Nah man. When you new, you won't recognize this people. You think you do but you realize there will be time where people become insecure. You also have to manage egos. Man management is something to learn as much as identifying a good 'brother'.

Zac