How to deal with ex-'best-girlfriend' trying to ruin your reputation?

[krseoulite]

Hey guys, I'll make this short. I had an old girl-friend from high school that reached out to me recently after about 5 years. We were good friends, not dating, and shared alot about our personal lives totally on a friendly basis. We went our separate ways and I lived my life.

Recently, she told me she wishes we dated when we were younger and regrets not dating me. I told her I'm glad we stayed friends, to which she got irritated. She currently has a boyfriend and seems very unsatisfied. But I know this girl also has some low-self esteem issues.

What happened when she reached out is that I just continued our relationship from high school which is I just showed her pictures of some girls I was dating. Except this time she was getting catty and putting down the girls I showed her saying 'She looks fake as hell' or 'She looks dumb' "Yeah these girls might have nice asses, but they're not a girl you'd want to bring around your parents'. Classic girl wanting to settle down with someone.

Anyway, I just ignored it and tried to be friendly with her since she was someone that was important in my life. Until she started playing games with me. It was around 2 weeks since we talked, and I just casually texted her saying we should catch up since its been awhile. To this, she plays hard to get and acts real busy. I told her cool, and then the next day she calls me when she realized I was with another girl. Playing games.

I let that slide. Finally, I was visiting my old hometown so texted her. She saw it and ignored it. This really irritated me and annoyed. Here I was trying to be a good friend and she was playing these stupid games.

After awhile I finally snapped at her. "You really got some fucking issues. Keep on fucking playing games, and you'll be out of my life in no time."

She replies "So I should be in this relationship out of fear? I'm blocking you, you seem to be real insecure"

Now, I found out she's mouthing off to our old friends about me talking shit saying how insecure I am and blah blah trying to ruin my 'reputation', screen shotting the texts about the 'you really got some fucking issues' and rallying support.

It's a fucking headache.
How should I handle this?

 

[Zoro]

The best way to avoid drama is by not engaging in it.

When someone wants to mess with you, telling them to stop is just fanning flames.

One way to handle a situation like this, is only respond to her when she’s behaving in an appropriate way. If she’s playing some weird games, you basically do not acknowledge her existence. Actually when I do this, I literally will forget about them, because I have a standard for the people I let into my life.

Now that there is already some drama stewing, I would probably just do the same. Do not engage in it. If these are old friends that really aren’t friends anymore, then who cares. And if they are friends, you should be able to explain yourself.

If you want still waters, you don’t slap down the waves, you let them dissipate on their own.