How to deal with the "sugar daddy" issue

[ph40]

So, here's something I've been wondering about: how do you guys deal with the presence of a "sugar daddy" in a girl's life?

Turns out, having a sugar daddy is very popular among younger women right now, especially attractive ones that can demand a lot of money from older guys. There are entire dating websites constructed to match sugar daddies with young women.

I was watching a video by Owen Cook not too long ago and he said something like "all the girls I sleep with (in CA) have sugar daddies, and they hate them". He was talking about avoiding the "provider" role and being more of the "lover", but the fact remains that these girls are sleeping with older men for money while ALSO hooking up with guys like you and me, either in relationships or just casually. And a lot of times, the guys getting it as the boyfriend or the lover don't necessarily know about the sugar daddy, or vice versa.

So, do you suspect that any women you've slept with or been in relationships with have had a "sugar daddy" on the side that you either knew about or didn't know about? And how does it sit with you: this idea of sharing a woman (even if you're just FWB, or hooking up, or full blown relationship) with a "sugar daddy" who might be seeing her anywhere from 3-5 times a month, and giving her thousands of dollars to sleep with her?

 

[topcat]

Whether I know or don’t know, if we’re casual I don’t care. I’m pretty sure my last mltr was turning tricks like this..

It’s a fantasy of mine though to have a girl with a sugar daddy spoil me with the money she makes

 

[Toby2030]

I used to be fwb with a girl that sugardated. As long as you aren't looking for a mono relationship I don't really see a problem.

 

[ph40]

But if she's your girlfriend, then it would bother you?

At what point do you become a "cuck" as people say, if you are sharing a girl with someone else (or multiple others)? If you're just FWB but she's sleeping with other guys, some for money, does that not make you one? Or is it only if you're married to a woman who is sleeping with others?

 

[ulrich]

If you’re there just for sex, I guess you have to extend the same courtesy to the girl.
Let her sleep with whomever she wants.
It’s just common courtesy.

Most women sleep around less than men do, anyway.

If she is your girlfriend, then you definitely should reconsider.
If that bothers you, you either ask her to stop or dump her.
Me personally, I would never see a girl who sugardates as long term potential so that takes care of it.

 

[topcat]

But if she's your girlfriend, then it would bother you?

At what point do you become a "cuck" as people say, if you are sharing a girl with someone else (or multiple others)? If you're just FWB but she's sleeping with other guys, some for money, does that not make you one? Or is it only if you're married to a woman who is sleeping with others?

yeah exclusive gf it’d be a problem, because we’re exclusive.

fwb - we’re not exclusive why would i care?

In my mind cucking is any situation where a woman gives a resource one man heavily invests in to receive, to another man for a lesser price or free. Her womb, her pussy, her exclusivity, whatever..

In a sugar daddy situation where he pays while I get the pussy free, he is the cuck.

 

[ph40]

Ok, that makes sense. So in a situation with a hooker/escort, where every man she sees is paying her for sex, is every john a cuck?

 

[Toby2030]

If you’re there just for sex, I guess you have to extend the same courtesy to the girl.
Let her sleep with whomever she wants.
It’s just common courtesy.

Most women sleep around less than men do, anyway.

If she is your girlfriend, then you definitely should reconsider.
If that bothers you, you either ask her to stop or dump her.
Me personally, I would never see a girl who sugardates as long term potential so that takes care of it.

I think you'll be surprised with that claim. Women sleep around just as much as men.

Ok, that makes sense. So in a situation with a hooker/escort, where every man she sees is paying her for sex, is every john a cuck?

I don't really understand what you want out of this post? Are you seeing a girl who's sugardating or what's the deal?

 

[ulrich]

I think you'll be surprised with that claim. Women sleep around just as much as men.

Wish there was a number to be sure.

Any statistics we could look at to find out? Can’t think of any right now.

 

[Winston]

Fwiw I have been on the sugar daddy side and I don't think girls hated me.

Most of the time I have seen the girls only once, because there was no fit. But among the two that I have seen repeatedly, one of them would probably have liked to get a normal exclusive relationship with me, and the other told me she enjoyed a lot the sex with me (and incidentally she is smoking hot).

Also one girl told me that she was fed up with Tinder and getting fuck by guys without any follow up, so now she was trying sugar dating because even if this was the same outcome, at least she was getting paid for that.
I think this is interesting to know that some girls think like that.

 

[ulrich]

This tread got me curious. Where do girls go to find sugar daddies?

Is there like an app or something? Or does every girl have older guys hitting on her on Instagram?

 

[West_Indian_Archie]

So, here's something I've been wondering about: how do you guys deal with the presence of a "sugar daddy" in a girl's life?

Profit.

You gotta change your mindset about these chicks. That's one of the big mindset shifts that happens with the more girls you get with.

 

[ph40]

Profit.

You gotta change your mindset about these chicks. That's one of the big mindset shifts that happens with the more girls you get with.

I don't understand. Profit? How?

 

[ph40]

This tread got me curious. Where do girls go to find sugar daddies?

Is there like an app or something? Or does every girl have older guys hitting on her on Instagram?

Seeking.com, also, yes, they get hit up by rich guys on Instagram who want to fly them out to some beach resort or tropical location for a weekend for $$$