Hola amigos,
I have a question.
I'm fairly confident, friendly, and warm.
But I also know I make a lot of guys insecure around me.
It gets rather annoying when I first try to be friendly with them but they instead try to cut me down.
How do I deal with these types of behaviors from other men?
Here are some examples.
#1 Insecure Guy Reaction
Uber Ride Pool: Me, Driver, Another girl (After Class)
Me: (Coming in with confident vibe) Sup man
Driver (Student on my campus): (Reacting to my energy) Sup!
(Pretty girl gets in)
Driver: How's your day going? (To me)
Me: Pretty good man, I just took my midterm in my acting class. And somehow I managed to memorize my scripts an hour before the midterm. I didn't realize I could do that.
Driver: Oh cool.
Me: Yeah man. So how bout you? Is uber your full-time job? (Asking genuinely)
Driver: (Getting insecure) Hell naw man, I'm also a full time choreographer. Matter of fact, you guys will probably see me on TV tonight. I'm a professional dancer.
Girl: Oh cool, I'm a ballerina
Driver: Yeah? Well you guys might seem me with (Some name). You know him? (To me)
Me: No
Driver: Well he's like the Michael Jordan of Hip Hop. I met him.
Girl: Oh wow, he's like my idol
Driver: Oh really? Well yeah, I'm gonna be on TV with him. (To me) So how bout you man? Got an agent for your acting career?
Me: Nope, I'm only taking it for fun. (I'm kind of confused here because here I was just having good vibes and trying to be friendly with this dude, and he instantly got insecure and started trying to cut me down)
Driver: Oh why not get an agent?
And so on.
#2 Insecure Reaction
Another Uber Driver
I walk in with a swagger.
Him: (Immediately react to be with a bit of like, who the fuck does he think he is)
Me: (I usually don't notice as most guys wanna be friends with me)
Me: (Not realizing he was insecure already by me) Sup man!
Him: Sup
Me: Busy tonight?
Him: Hah, I'm always busy man. I got 3 jobs. (I can tell there's a subtle aggression)
Me: Okay, well I'm talking about tonight with Uber.
Him: Oh nah, it's slow.
Me: That's cool man.
Him: How bout you?
Me: It's alright. I'm glad there won't be any drunks with me pooling today.
Him: Well, obviously, it's Sunday night. (uh, okay?)
Me: (I ignore it) Yeah, it was funny last night, I was in a pool with 3 other drunk people. And it's amazing how fast 3 drunk strangers become instant friends and get a party going in the ride.
Him: Haha well, what do you expect out of drunk people?
Me: (At this point, I'm getting annoyed)
Him: And then he starts talking about some drunk people trying to talk to me.
#3 Tattoo Shop
I walk into this tattoo shop. And immediately when I walk in, the whole shop kind of stops and looks at me.
I walk in with a upright posture, slow walk, and etc.
There's like a little clique of workers, and there's one owner. (They're all guys around 21-29)
Leader of the clique: Sup man, how can I help?
Me: Sup, I just need a piercing in my left ear. (When I talk, my voice is very low, articulate, and very commanding, or I've been told)
Immediately I sense the leader guy get insecure. (Which I didn't know bout til I started talking to him)
I befriend the customers there and there's some cuties looking at me, giving me girly eyes and stuff.
Anyway, I've been wanting to get a sleeve and I saw that the "leader" guy had a pretty cool sleeve.
So I walk up to him.
Me: Sup man, nice sleeve.
Him: Thanks
Me: I've been looking to get a sleeve and researching a bit, when'd you get yours done?
(Here everyone stopped to hear what we were talking about. The followers in his crew were all staring and the girls started listening in. i have no idea why_
Him: Oh this is from a celebrity tattoo shop man, you can't just get it anywhere.
Me: (Okay? I ignore this idiotic comment) that's great man. I'm getting one in a few months. how much did it cost ya?
Him: Everything depends man.
Me: That's why I'm asking you, you're the tattoo artist right?
Him: Well, it's like a car. When you buy a car what do you do?
Me: What?
Him: You check to see if the air conditioner is working, or if the engines okay, or make sure the driving is good. You wouldn't just buy a car right?
Me: (I just look at him like Wtf are you talking about?) You know what man, nevermind I said anything. (And I just walk back to my place)
(Everyone's kind of just staring at what hapepend?)
Him: (Reacting) Wait, you get what I mean right?
Me: in my head (no you retard, I would just buy a new car cause I'm not a broke dumbass like you)
So here are some annoying examples of how insecure dudes get.
I noticed that with guys, I get very black and white reactions.
With other confident guys, they become friends with me, and are really good with me.
Average Joes: They're either intimidated, or REALLY friendly with me
And then there's the ones who get insecure around me: They get hostile, or try to cut me down like the above.
My question is, how do I deal with this? Especially when there's women around?
It's getting really annoying.
I have a question.
I'm fairly confident, friendly, and warm.
But I also know I make a lot of guys insecure around me.
It gets rather annoying when I first try to be friendly with them but they instead try to cut me down.
How do I deal with these types of behaviors from other men?
Here are some examples.
#1 Insecure Guy Reaction
Uber Ride Pool: Me, Driver, Another girl (After Class)
Me: (Coming in with confident vibe) Sup man
Driver (Student on my campus): (Reacting to my energy) Sup!
(Pretty girl gets in)
Driver: How's your day going? (To me)
Me: Pretty good man, I just took my midterm in my acting class. And somehow I managed to memorize my scripts an hour before the midterm. I didn't realize I could do that.
Driver: Oh cool.
Me: Yeah man. So how bout you? Is uber your full-time job? (Asking genuinely)
Driver: (Getting insecure) Hell naw man, I'm also a full time choreographer. Matter of fact, you guys will probably see me on TV tonight. I'm a professional dancer.
Girl: Oh cool, I'm a ballerina
Driver: Yeah? Well you guys might seem me with (Some name). You know him? (To me)
Me: No
Driver: Well he's like the Michael Jordan of Hip Hop. I met him.
Girl: Oh wow, he's like my idol
Driver: Oh really? Well yeah, I'm gonna be on TV with him. (To me) So how bout you man? Got an agent for your acting career?
Me: Nope, I'm only taking it for fun. (I'm kind of confused here because here I was just having good vibes and trying to be friendly with this dude, and he instantly got insecure and started trying to cut me down)
Driver: Oh why not get an agent?
And so on.
#2 Insecure Reaction
Another Uber Driver
I walk in with a swagger.
Him: (Immediately react to be with a bit of like, who the fuck does he think he is)
Me: (I usually don't notice as most guys wanna be friends with me)
Me: (Not realizing he was insecure already by me) Sup man!
Him: Sup
Me: Busy tonight?
Him: Hah, I'm always busy man. I got 3 jobs. (I can tell there's a subtle aggression)
Me: Okay, well I'm talking about tonight with Uber.
Him: Oh nah, it's slow.
Me: That's cool man.
Him: How bout you?
Me: It's alright. I'm glad there won't be any drunks with me pooling today.
Him: Well, obviously, it's Sunday night. (uh, okay?)
Me: (I ignore it) Yeah, it was funny last night, I was in a pool with 3 other drunk people. And it's amazing how fast 3 drunk strangers become instant friends and get a party going in the ride.
Him: Haha well, what do you expect out of drunk people?
Me: (At this point, I'm getting annoyed)
Him: And then he starts talking about some drunk people trying to talk to me.
#3 Tattoo Shop
I walk into this tattoo shop. And immediately when I walk in, the whole shop kind of stops and looks at me.
I walk in with a upright posture, slow walk, and etc.
There's like a little clique of workers, and there's one owner. (They're all guys around 21-29)
Leader of the clique: Sup man, how can I help?
Me: Sup, I just need a piercing in my left ear. (When I talk, my voice is very low, articulate, and very commanding, or I've been told)
Immediately I sense the leader guy get insecure. (Which I didn't know bout til I started talking to him)
I befriend the customers there and there's some cuties looking at me, giving me girly eyes and stuff.
Anyway, I've been wanting to get a sleeve and I saw that the "leader" guy had a pretty cool sleeve.
So I walk up to him.
Me: Sup man, nice sleeve.
Him: Thanks
Me: I've been looking to get a sleeve and researching a bit, when'd you get yours done?
(Here everyone stopped to hear what we were talking about. The followers in his crew were all staring and the girls started listening in. i have no idea why_
Him: Oh this is from a celebrity tattoo shop man, you can't just get it anywhere.
Me: (Okay? I ignore this idiotic comment) that's great man. I'm getting one in a few months. how much did it cost ya?
Him: Everything depends man.
Me: That's why I'm asking you, you're the tattoo artist right?
Him: Well, it's like a car. When you buy a car what do you do?
Me: What?
Him: You check to see if the air conditioner is working, or if the engines okay, or make sure the driving is good. You wouldn't just buy a car right?
Me: (I just look at him like Wtf are you talking about?) You know what man, nevermind I said anything. (And I just walk back to my place)
(Everyone's kind of just staring at what hapepend?)
Him: (Reacting) Wait, you get what I mean right?
Me: in my head (no you retard, I would just buy a new car cause I'm not a broke dumbass like you)
So here are some annoying examples of how insecure dudes get.
I noticed that with guys, I get very black and white reactions.
With other confident guys, they become friends with me, and are really good with me.
Average Joes: They're either intimidated, or REALLY friendly with me
And then there's the ones who get insecure around me: They get hostile, or try to cut me down like the above.
My question is, how do I deal with this? Especially when there's women around?
It's getting really annoying.
