- Joined
- Sep 7, 2018
- Messages
- 364
Hey guys,
So I went on a basically blind date today. The girl was my dads coworker's daughter, who I met very briefly a long while back. She had apparently brought up me to my dad and he had gotten me her number so we set up a date for today.
We met at a Starbucks at around 6 and grabbed a coffee and sat down. As we don't know much about each other (she knew more than me), we had a good deep dive talk. She was very talkative and bubbly and we matched well.
After a while (about 45 min - an hour) I went to move the date forward, suggesting we go bowling a bit (the place is right across the street). She said it'd be fun, but we should do it on another date because she made plans with a friend at 7:10 (it was now 6:50-6:55ish). I was caught offguard, thinking she was open the rest of the night.
So I suggested we at least go for a walk (to build some compliance and move her), she agreed. But, it was cold outside so I suggest we sit in the car to stay warm. She suggested we sit in her car, but I said no let's sit in mine. We sat in my car and talked a bit more. When it got quiet, I said "want to do something crazy?" and went in for a man-handle kiss. She pulled away hard and was like "are you going to hit me???" to which I confusedly said "no why would I do that?"
She then said she was a boring person and we wouldn't be doing anything crazy tonight, but maybe in a few dates. This was an immediate red flag to me she is probably trying to boyfriend zone me. I had touched her often throughout our talking and thought I presented otherwise. I was also caught offguard she refused the first kiss.
So she said she had to go to meet her friend and began to leave. She leaned in for a hug, which I gave but then as she pulled away from the hug, I kissed her. She acted weird and surprised and smiled and began to leave again. I told her "Hang on, we're not done. Kiss me again", which she did. I then let her go.
My plan was to bowl with her a bit to have a shared experience, then take her back to her car. Before letting her leave to her car, we'd kiss more and I'd escalate to sex. That was my goal, but I wasnt expecting her to make plans on our date.
So, considering I don't remember meeting this girl and I knew nothing about her going in, I guess it was a solid informational date. I can also probably get a second date. However, if I don't lay her the second date, she's done. Especially if she pulls this making plans on our date shit again. I'm not happy about that.
But anyways, I'm waiting for her to text me first. I'll set up a second date maybe for Sunday or something. Do you guys think this can be considered "successful"?? Let me know your thoughts!
So I went on a basically blind date today. The girl was my dads coworker's daughter, who I met very briefly a long while back. She had apparently brought up me to my dad and he had gotten me her number so we set up a date for today.
We met at a Starbucks at around 6 and grabbed a coffee and sat down. As we don't know much about each other (she knew more than me), we had a good deep dive talk. She was very talkative and bubbly and we matched well.
After a while (about 45 min - an hour) I went to move the date forward, suggesting we go bowling a bit (the place is right across the street). She said it'd be fun, but we should do it on another date because she made plans with a friend at 7:10 (it was now 6:50-6:55ish). I was caught offguard, thinking she was open the rest of the night.
So I suggested we at least go for a walk (to build some compliance and move her), she agreed. But, it was cold outside so I suggest we sit in the car to stay warm. She suggested we sit in her car, but I said no let's sit in mine. We sat in my car and talked a bit more. When it got quiet, I said "want to do something crazy?" and went in for a man-handle kiss. She pulled away hard and was like "are you going to hit me???" to which I confusedly said "no why would I do that?"
She then said she was a boring person and we wouldn't be doing anything crazy tonight, but maybe in a few dates. This was an immediate red flag to me she is probably trying to boyfriend zone me. I had touched her often throughout our talking and thought I presented otherwise. I was also caught offguard she refused the first kiss.
So she said she had to go to meet her friend and began to leave. She leaned in for a hug, which I gave but then as she pulled away from the hug, I kissed her. She acted weird and surprised and smiled and began to leave again. I told her "Hang on, we're not done. Kiss me again", which she did. I then let her go.
My plan was to bowl with her a bit to have a shared experience, then take her back to her car. Before letting her leave to her car, we'd kiss more and I'd escalate to sex. That was my goal, but I wasnt expecting her to make plans on our date.
So, considering I don't remember meeting this girl and I knew nothing about her going in, I guess it was a solid informational date. I can also probably get a second date. However, if I don't lay her the second date, she's done. Especially if she pulls this making plans on our date shit again. I'm not happy about that.
But anyways, I'm waiting for her to text me first. I'll set up a second date maybe for Sunday or something. Do you guys think this can be considered "successful"?? Let me know your thoughts!
