Socializing How to develop greater empathy?

[Candlelight]

Hi guys

I've noticed recently that I have a very big problem - I can't seem to shut up. In group conversations, I tend to bulldoze past other's opinions or sometimes make a joking jab that I realise now is actually hurting my rapport with the recipient. I've always been very opinionated, but I don't think it has been a problem until I've dove deep into the seduction community and really began firming up on what I stand for individually. It's a tricky thing though, because people have their own beliefs too and when you try to bulldoze over them they feel alienated. It's basically "othering" yourself, which is probably a bad way to go about life.

Has anyone went through something similar? Part of the problem stems from wanting to bond with the other person but not understanding what they like to talk about. How should someone better see things from the perspective of others - what makes them tick, what they like to talk about and what they value in a person? If anyone could include some generalisations of "archetypes" and what they value/enjoy talking about it would be greatly appreciated too!

Cheers

 

[happynanako]

By asking How I believe you are willing to change.
I would say the best way is to do some volunteering, where you need to interact or listen to others. I see changes in myself.

Special situation:
There will be asshole always trying to steal the limelight or wet blanket you. I encountered that and the best way is to reply to them logically and make them look stupid and don't follow up because they will have self-doubts about themselves.

Normal Situation:
Guys: They usually want advice or solutions to their problems so it is okay to provide suggestions.

Girls A: Some girls just wanted a listening ear where they will ask you for various opinions but in the end, they will just pick the option they wanted the most and they are probably seeking confirmation. I start to listen to them more as they want to share more with me.

Girl B: They are like guy friends and really seek advice or solutions.

I think you need to develop that over time. I believe people are willing to accept someone who is willing to change compared to someone who is stuck in their own world.