How to enjoy college

[Sub-Zero]

Hey guys,

In trying to find out how I can have the best college experience. I'm older, so so you think I should lie about my age or not tell it? I'm not super old, but id rather keep it to myself, but if being older helps, let me know.

I'm focused on making money now while I continue my education, I'm wondering if I took classes at night would that ruin my social life in college? And how is it working full time, school full time, and having a social life? Any of you guys did it successfully?

Lastly, I'm not trying to join a frat or a club, how can I still have a good social life, make new friends, get more girls without those things?

Thanks yall.

 

[Fuck This]

#1 get a social circle. People in your Major, People from your home town, People in your dorm or apartment complex, People in your general classes, Guys in Frats, Girls in sororities. Everyone should know who you are. People will then WANT to know who you are.

#2 You should remember peoples names and a few facts about them. Study some Dale Carnegie strategies if you have to.

#3 Greet people when you see them. If you are meeting a new girl and all the people passing by are greeting you, she will wonder "why don't I know this guy yet?"

#4 Be happy to see them and they will be happy to see you. The positive emotions are contagious.

#5 if you are older you might feel more comfortable meeting Grad students who tend to be more serious, focused and have more life experience. Other "older Students" are servicemen going to school on the GI Bill after serving an active duty tour. These guys tend to party pretty hard, and be little less reserved with alcohol especially if they have seen some action.

#6 Your age is only a problem if you make it a problem. Focus on commonalities with your classmates. Don't dismiss some kid when he spouts off like he doesn't know what he's talking about. Don't be pedantic when you address kids. Treat them with adult respect and they will level up if they are worth knowing.

#7 Put yourself in social situations. Most college parties are pretty lame with kids who don't know how to hold their liquor doing stupid stuff. you have to find situations you are comfortable in and be social. Yes, that means club events. Volunteer for the Student Alumni Board where you interact with alumni in the hopes of encouraging them to donate back to the university. You will interact with recent grads closer to your age and a little more maturity.

#8 At an older age sometimes it can be tough to absorb all the material if it has been a while since you have had to study and retain facts and figures. Use the University Study and Learning resources like tutors, and study skills help. Try to avoid arguing with the professor during his lecture. It makes you look bad.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Great advice!

But how do I exactly do tip 1? How do I get those things and make them want to know me? How do I have to act? I have no social circle here at all, it's a brand new place. I'm not the most social person, but I am when I have to be. How do I get a social circle without knowing anyone and being a little older?

And do you know about classes at night? Will I ruin my college experience if I take night classes and work in the morning? I gotta get this money, but if I know now that it could, I'll find a way to work nights instead.

I'm tryna be that cool dude who doesn't need to join anything to be known. I'm not tryna be the most popular or anything, just want a couple of cool people to hang with, and to fuck girls, that's it.

Thanks my man.

#1 get a social circle. People in your Major, People from your home town, People in your dorm or apartment complex, People in your general classes, Guys in Frats, Girls in sororities. Everyone should know who you are. People will then WANT to know who you are.

#2 You should remember peoples names and a few facts about them. Study some Dale Carnegie strategies if you have to.

#3 Greet people when you see them. If you are meeting a new girl and all the people passing by are greeting you, she will wonder "why don't I know this guy yet?"

#4 Be happy to see them and they will be happy to see you. The positive emotions are contagious.

#5 if you are older you might feel more comfortable meeting Grad students who tend to be more serious, focused and have more life experience. Other "older Students" are servicemen going to school on the GI Bill after serving an active duty tour. These guys tend to party pretty hard, and be little less reserved with alcohol especially if they have seen some action.

#6 Your age is only a problem if you make it a problem. Focus on commonalities with your classmates. Don't dismiss some kid when he spouts off like he doesn't know what he's talking about. Don't be pedantic when you address kids. Treat them with adult respect and they will level up if they are worth knowing.

#7 Put yourself in social situations. Most college parties are pretty lame with kids who don't know how to hold their liquor doing stupid stuff. you have to find situations you are comfortable in and be social. Yes, that means club events. Volunteer for the Student Alumni Board where you interact with alumni in the hopes of encouraging them to donate back to the university. You will interact with recent grads closer to your age and a little more maturity.

#8 At an older age sometimes it can be tough to absorb all the material if it has been a while since you have had to study and retain facts and figures. Use the University Study and Learning resources like tutors, and study skills help. Try to avoid arguing with the professor during his lecture. It makes you look bad.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Bump

 

[D_Smooth1900]

I'm actually in the same boat but I fall under the service member going back to school, definitely interested in what else everyone has to say

 

[Sub-Zero]

You get to go back to school for free right? Correct me if I'm mistaken. Are you trying to get a full time job while going to school full time as well? What's your situation? I hope we do get more answers, but it's been a week since this was posted, so I'm not gonna keep my hopes up, I'll have to wing it probably.

I'm actually in the same boat but I fall under the service member going back to school, definitely interested in what else everyone has to say

 

[D_Smooth1900]

That's right, I'll be getting paid a living allowance and a monthly stipend from the VA.. I'm not worried about getting a job but if I have to I'll work. Right now I'm just looking into going to school full time and doing an internship on the side and possibly joining a gym depending on how much time I have available. But yea I'd like some more insight and what to expect from someone who's already been down this path if possible, what city will you be studying in?

 

[Sub-Zero]

Idk right now I was thinking of Miami or LA? That would be hella debt for me lol, but I gotta think about it.

What city u going to man?

What is your question about what you want to know? Did you want to know how to have a social life? Get girls? Go to parties?

If you're not working then you can have time to do everything! Plus you can get a lil part time job that I'm sure will be flexible as hell.

You should have hella fun.

That's right, I'll be getting paid a living allowance and a monthly stipend from the VA.. I'm not worried about getting a job but if I have to I'll work. Right now I'm just looking into going to school full time and doing an internship on the side and possibly joining a gym depending on how much time I have available. But yea I'd like some more insight and what to expect from someone who's already been down this path if possible, what city will you be studying in?

 

[D_Smooth1900]

Those are some pretty good choices, I'll be going to NY but my questions are the same as yours basically what to do with my social life once in college for someone who's over 25

 

[Fuck This]

Getting a social circle by meeting people in class is usually a matter of introducing yourself to classmates before or after class or during breaks.

"Hi there, I'm SZ. "

They reply with their name

Then just have a conversation about the class or teacher. If it is a new town for you ask them if they are from around there.

Greet the people whose name you know before class when they are in conversational distance.

After class in the afternoon or evening say, "Man, I need a beer after that!" then inquire about a cool nearby bar.

Let the course lecture provide conversation material to be a common thread. Basically be friendly, but not pushy.

Good guide...

 

[Sub-Zero]

Thanks man!

Getting a social circle by meeting people in class is usually a matter of introducing yourself to classmates before or after class or during breaks.

"Hi there, I'm SZ. "

They reply with their name

Then just have a conversation about the class or teacher. If it is a new town for you ask them if they are from around there.

Greet the people whose name you know before class when they are in conversational distance.

After class in the afternoon or evening say, "Man, I need a beer after that!" then inquire about a cool nearby bar.

Let the course lecture provide conversation material to be a common thread. Basically be friendly, but not pushy.

Good guide...

 

[Sub-Zero]

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