Calls & Texts How to Follow Up on a "Maybe"

[JMP_123]

So i'm trying to make plans with a girl i've been talking to and met 2 weeks ago. I offered to do something interesting after she said " I don't do anything interesting," leading me on. I offered simple stuff along the lines of movies or grabbing a bite to eat. Of course I didn't get a straight answer. She gave me the "maybe, i'll let you know tomorrow." I'm not one to sit around and wait like a puppy dog so I said something along the lines of maybe isn't good enough. She told me persistence from guys freaks her out, so from that I took it that she's A. immature B. a little screwy C. past issues with "control" with guys but I chose D. All of the Above lol.

Make a long story short I haven't heard back from her today and could care less if she shoots me down to make plans. But what would any of you suggest I text her to follow up with her, preferably something forward but not too pushy as this girl clearly needs to be held with kids gloves. I get out of work around 5 and am heading to the gym, I just want an answer out of her before so I don't waste my time past 6 or 7pm not making other plans.

Any advice is cool!

JMP

 

[Franco]

Hey jmp,

In general, when a girl gives you a "maybe" over text, it has less to do with the way you texted her and more to do with either

• A) the first impression you made on her. Or
  B) her actual schedule being busy.

Unfortunately, neither of these can be "cured" by a socially savvy text; texting her at this point will probably just push her further into rejection and eventually just lead to her not responding to you. Your best bet when a girl gives you a "maybe" over text is to either not respond, or just respond with a casual, "Sounds good. Let me know."

If a girl doesn't get back to me after a text like this, I'll usually give it at least 3-5 days before I try contacting her again to setup a meet, but usually it's a sign that you didn't make a good enough impression on her when you exchanged digits. You'll have to analyze your reference points and see if this is a sticking point that you keep getting stuck at and find out if it's an issue with your approach, or your fundamentals, or your texting game, etc.

You'll usually find that girls who were very interested in you upon meeting you will be happy to schedule a date with you.

I hope this helps!

- Franco

 

[JMP_123]

Franco,

You da' man thanks for the response. The disappointing part is she has come off as 60-70% interested but has been dragging her feet when it comes to social activities. If I don't hear from her I have no problem following up in a few days and just dropping it if she's wasting my time.

She's contacted me a fair amount and vice versa. has been flirting, and sent me sexy pics. She has come off as immature when it comes to a lot though as she seems to be surrounded by the typical "I have to go out with my girl friends," type group which gets in the way. On top of that she's 2 years older and still seems pretty timid when it comes to experiencing a wide range of social-ness. And just for the record she's 26 and i'm 24, just to clarify this isn't coming from a 12 year old haha.

I'll most likely be out tonight and Sat night doing the usual hunting for chicks, so if I don't hear from her the beat goes on and on to the next one.

Thanks again!

 

[Light]

Just don't fall in the trap of being her Text buddy.
Its very normal for a girl to just play you on, flirt with you over the phone, simply because she's bored.
Make sure you detect early signs of these, and avoid being her entertainer.

 

[JMP_123]

@Light yea it has never turned into that. I purposely text other girls for that same purpose who send me pix and what not and still flirt so it is what it is with them. But I never heard from her again after Thursday anyways. I guess she was more interested in "going out with the girls" for the millionth time over the weekend. I'm not just trying to fuck her and both sides have come off as genuine so I have no problem hitting her up again come closer to the weekend, even if I don't hear from her. She has seemed a little immature so again if she doesn't want to make plans I look at it as her loss and she's the one who's got to be more proactive and make adult plans like any other 24-26 year old.