How to gauge her interest level.

[Mr.Montague]

Ive been seeing this girl for about 3months, she cooks me dinner, comes to my house, we see each other roughly 3-5 time a week. We meet up, hang out, do something and always end up having sex. Now for me, Ive been getting bored with sex, but thats a different topic. Ill stick to the script here. She seems to be very into, very affectionate, enjoys spending time with you but there is something off that I cant quite explain. One night, we were drunk, and she started to get a little upset with me, and was like "you are so hard to read".. Im all what do you mean, as far as my emotions go.. she cant tell if I like her. She tells me "That she likes me and likes spending time with me" I just told her that I cant tell her how I feel because it will come out wrong, but I can just show, trust my actions sort of guy.

That goes on.. same thing she cooks me food, we hang out, we dont text much throughout the day, Ill just call her and invite her out. So there is where I have a question, sometimes she wont answer my call... but a cpl of hours later shes calling me multiple times and texting me. The last time she did this...

She called me three times in a row.. I was asleep
Her: Sweet dreams
Her: I wish I could hear your voice right now
Her: and snuggle
Her: Guess you got that all figured out
Her: (Next morning)... Just in case... wanted to tell you, good morning and that I was thinking about you obviously (insert smiling blushy face). Hope your day is great. Its gorgeous!
Me: Good morning
Me: That lil sundress you had on in my dream last night... got me thinking
Her: Youre real cute.

That was the last time we exchanged text, I think shes out of town, she told me she was going to head out Thursday morning. These text happened Wednesday to Thursday morning... I had plans Thursday, So I didnt call her. But what do you think with what has been said...

 

[Chase]

Montague-

She sounds pretty interested. You're just trying to get a read on how into you she is? That can be a little tricky... drama is a big one. If girls get upset with you and give you drama, that's usually a sign they're very interested. Women don't get dramatic with men they don't care about. Another one is availability - is she available whenever you want her? The more available she is for you, the more into you she is. A woman who's crazy into you will move mountains to spend time with you whenever you want... a woman who isn't won't be available to you no matter when you want to meet or how flexible you are.

The lovey-dovey text messages are another sign, as is the frustration over not being able to read you. Very occasionally, girls will get frustrated they can't read a guy because they're control freaks - that is, they want to feel like every guy is crazy about them. Usually though, it's just a sign that she feels like there's a gaping "love imbalance" - that she's giving you way more affection and attention than you're giving her, and it risks making her look foolish to you (i.e., if she's crazy in love, and you are not).

Chase

 

[Mr.Montague]

Thanks for the information. As far as the "love imbalance" goes, I am really into to this girl. We spend a lot of time more and more. For some reason I have yet to fully open up to her about certain aspects of my life and really opening up to her about my feelings. I've been seeing her for roughly 4 months and I'd like to continue seeing her, but I find it strange that she hasn't brought up a relationship, most girls would have already. She's always available to me, we hang out, she's seems really invested in me like you mentioned above but yet she seems to be a bit resistant on opening up to me as well. I don't know if it's her mirroring my actions, because I can be so guarded or if she is just used to guys spilling their feelings for her, she told me her ex bf o 7 years told her, he loved her after 3 weeks! Thanks again for the information Chase, look forward to hearing from you

 

[Chase]

Mr. Montague-

I don't know if it's her mirroring my actions, because I can be so guarded or if she is just used to guys spilling their feelings for her, she told me her ex bf o 7 years told her, he loved her after 3 weeks! Thanks again for the information Chase, look forward to hearing from you

Could be it. It's hard to see what someone's personality is like over the Internet, but if she's a girl with a very sensitive temperament, she may be reading your coldness and reticence as a lack of emotion toward her, and be clamming herself up to protect herself. People have varying degrees of emotional responses to this, but generally the more sensitive a girl is, the more she'll be paying very close attention to your actions and behavior, and the more she'll try to protect herself from getting hurt if she thinks it seems like your emotions toward her are substantially less powerful than hers are toward you.

Chase

 

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Mr. Montague-

I don't know if it's her mirroring my actions, because I can be so guarded or if she is just used to guys spilling their feelings for her, she told me her ex bf o 7 years told her, he loved her after 3 weeks! Thanks again for the information Chase, look forward to hearing from you

Could be it. It's hard to see what someone's personality is like over the Internet, but if she's a girl with a very sensitive temperament, she may be reading your coldness and reticence as a lack of emotion toward her, and be clamming herself up to protect herself. People have varying degrees of emotional responses to this, but generally the more sensitive a girl is, the more she'll be paying very close attention to your actions and behavior, and the more she'll try to protect herself from getting hurt if she thinks it seems like your emotions toward her are substantially less powerful than hers are toward you.

Chase

I think that's my major problem. I attract very 'sensitive' girls and lose them by being emotionally uncooperative