How To Gauge When You Can Go To A Girls House Rather Than A Public Date?
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It's not super advisable because your close rate will plummet.
It takes alot of trust, comfort, etc. for a girl to let you into her place and none, of which, is built up sufficiently before the first date.
That being said; you can go out on a first date and see what her logistics are (and if they're favorable) then you can work out going to her place. But, again, I wouldn't ever advise you set-up a first date by recommending going to her place.
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It takes alot of trust, comfort, etc. for a girl to let you into her place and none, of which, is built up sufficiently before the first date.
That being said; you can go out on a first date and see what her logistics are (and if they're favorable) then you can work out going to her place. But, again, I wouldn't ever advise you set-up a first date by recommending going to her place.
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Thanks mate. I've already learned the lesson of being too aggressive when she wasn't exactly ready yet...
One unrelated question I'd like your input on. Are good streaks followed by bad streaks a normal thing? Bad streaks aren't a sign you're getting worse right?
One unrelated question I'd like your input on. Are good streaks followed by bad streaks a normal thing? Bad streaks aren't a sign you're getting worse right?
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Totally normal; progress with pick up isn't exactly linear.
It's likely you're still learning and getting your process down and aren't consistent yet. Even when you are consistent you'll have hot and cold streaks just not as bad. With women and seduction you cannot control everything; there's still a bit of randomness all the time and even when you're controlling everything within your grasp that randomness will still net hot and cold streaks.
- Richard
It's likely you're still learning and getting your process down and aren't consistent yet. Even when you are consistent you'll have hot and cold streaks just not as bad. With women and seduction you cannot control everything; there's still a bit of randomness all the time and even when you're controlling everything within your grasp that randomness will still net hot and cold streaks.
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My advice would be to get your own place and set up logistics so that you can bring a girl home with you rather than trying to go over to hers. Like Richard said you still would never suggest that as a meeting location for a first date
1) Its very difficult to socially astutely invite yourself over to another persons place.
2) There are a lot of other reasons beyond not being interested in you that a girl might have for not wanting you over. Place is a mess, her roommates are home, pictures of the boyfriend are up on the mantle piece, whatever.
1) Its very difficult to socially astutely invite yourself over to another persons place.
2) There are a lot of other reasons beyond not being interested in you that a girl might have for not wanting you over. Place is a mess, her roommates are home, pictures of the boyfriend are up on the mantle piece, whatever.