How to get a GF when you have a rotation of girls?

[Dylweed]

How do you get a girl on the right page? You don't want her to think you wanna date her when you just want to be FWB. You don't want to hurt them. You tell them before you bang them right?

What if you aren't sure if this new girl you just met is cool or not yet? What if she could potentially be a GF? But you aren't sure. But you also don't wanna drop all your FWB girls in your rotation yet. But then you feel guilty because this new cool girl youre fucking doesn't know youre fucking other girls. And you don't wanna hurt her or lie to her. But you also don't wanna tell her that you never wanna date her, because you might. Do yall get what im saying? How do you go about this situation?

 

[kristian]

How long have you been seeing each other?
I guess you're asking this because you're falling in love and want to bond more with that girl.
Is she making suggestions of you two being together?

If you really yearn for a committed relationship, you should find this out ASAP.

If you ask me, I would keep seeing the other girls for a couple of more months before committing to one girl.
She might see your non-neediness as seductive because she senses a type of abundance from you. Seeing other girls, makes the girls you want want you more.

But everything depends on your consciousness, of course.

 

[Fuck This]

You start doing BF type stuff. Take her out in public...have her spend the night. All while keeping an eye out for red flags...
She gets to go out with you on the "premium nights" (Fri-Sat) .
She gets to meet your friends.
She gets to friend you on Social Media
You meet her friends
See what she is like when inebriated. You might see a different personality.
See what she is like prior to and during her period.

10 Relationship Red Flags

In relationships, we're often willing to settle for or accept what is not in our best interest. These 10 points may help you avoid the trap.

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[Vision]

+1 to what Fuck This said. Start treating her more like a gf. Don't try to label it though... women usually will start that whole thing when they're ready for it.

Also, you should put her in challenging situations.

Take her to go do something that you can do that she cannot and see how she behaves when she's challenged to learn and grow.

I usually do this with swing dancing because I'm good at it but you could really do it with anything that you know that she doesn't.

Take her to a class or even just put her in a situation where she needs to do it and just watch how she behaves.

Some women will lose their shit, some will work harder, some will shut down, some will love the challenge, some will just have fun with it. You get to see what she's like that way it's not a surprise 5 months to a year into being in a relationship with each other when she gets stressed and you see the patterns she's in.

 

[Glow]

initially if needed be i set up a frame of
- some girls i tell them i dont see more with but im game for sex
- some im not sure w yet but curious to see more while enjoying the moments...
and my general frames sets a standard of seeing others that is rarely actively discussed

The first is just being honest. Most girls jump the sex despite disappointment. The second allows for multiple later outcomes. and theres no lie anywhere. Just holding back a lil until time is mature..

Further down it gets a bit more complex