How to get comfortable fast with girls and in social situations

[empath]

I generally try to make the girl we are with or friends or any new person we meet comfortable first.

Even if from inside I might be feeling little comfortable

but how do I get comfortable with a girl fast myself and same for new social situation

what exactly I am trying to say is

I flirt a lot better with the girl once I had good sex or I know for sure she is coming home with me or my friends I know from before.

Me feeling comfortable means they will automatically feel comfortable but specific result I am looking for is edge which me being comfortable gives to my humor and flirting

Now once I have laid a girl I am comfortable to flirt freely and don’t worry about they not enjoying it or me fearing losing something

same goes when I bust balls of my friends or they mine.

Any tips and tricks you guys use to settle in fast in a new situation?

Like getting yourself comfortable?

 

[topcat]

I generally try to make the girl we are with or friends or any new person we meet comfortable first.

Even if from inside I might be feeling little comfortable

but how do I get comfortable with a girl fast myself and same for new social situation

what exactly I am trying to say is

I flirt a lot better with the girl once I had good sex or I know for sure she is coming home with me or my friends I know from before.

Me feeling comfortable means they will automatically feel comfortable but specific result I am looking for is edge which me being comfortable gives to my humor and flirting

Now once I have laid a girl I am comfortable to flirt freely and don’t worry about they not enjoying it or me fearing losing something

same goes when I bust balls of my friends or they mine.

Any tips and tricks you guys use to settle in fast in a new situation?

Like getting yourself comfortable?

I allow myself to feel uncomfortable. In essence I get comfortable feeling uncomfortable, and from there allow things to progress as they will..

Trying to escape discomfort pushes you further into discomfort..

 

[Levo]

Its an inner game thing. You have to be SO COMFORTABLE with YOURSELF that you just know intrinsically that when you put yourself out there that people are going to respond well to it and like you. Funnily enough (or not) women respond really well to this because it sub communicates that youre popular and well liked.

Gambits and lines in the PUA community offer us those training wheels because it is field tested lines that we know should work, so we can work on the rest of our delivery in the meantime.

Sounds like you are still in the stage where you are doubting your natural personality and are unsure about letting it all out until you know the other person won't reject it.

You gotta find what works for you but personally I come from the frame of "I'm awesome, and if you don't like it then theres something wrong with you, not me."

And honestly a lot of the time, especially with cold approach, there is something wrong with them. You have zero idea what kind of fucked up shit has happened or is happening to someone in their life.

A big breakthrough in my game happened when I realized that there are a lot of fucked up people in the world and I can't look for ways to blame myself for any individual bad interactions. If in fact if you are yourself and dint to anything out of the ordinary, and get that bad interaction, then they just did you a favor by disqualifying themselves.

You only really need to take a step back and evaluate things if youre getting the same bad reactions multiple times from different people.

 

[Definitely_not_a_gymrat]

Its an inner game thing. You have to be SO COMFORTABLE with YOURSELF that you just know intrinsically that when you put yourself out there that people are going to respond well to it and like you. Funnily enough (or not) women respond really well to this because it sub communicates that youre popular and well liked.

Had an interaction yesterday at the gym, went up to a woman and asked for a favor, tapped her shoulder directly behind her to ask her, she legit screamed out loud, the type of scream where you seriously consider if security is getting called on you, most men would prolly break after this

5 seconds later we were laughing about it, she thought it was funny, I teased her to not scare me like that again, even though she was the one who screamed,

Little things like that helps increase confidence