How to get into HER bed

[Jack123Frost]

Hey guys,

So I feel like a few of my potential lays in the past few years have been hampered by something: I don't have my own place. I live in a firehouse full time, and bringing women back is a big no-no. So, if I want to date or sleep with someone, it always HAS to be at her place. Some women will invite me back if we're on a date, but other times I have trouble finding an excuse to getting back to her place. Some dates I try to talk about how we should watch a TV show together or something, but either I'm not pushing enough or she doesn't get the hint. I can't ask her to come to my place, and I don't exactly want to invite myself over to hers. Any tips on how to get her to her place?

Thank you, my friends,

-J

 

[Richard]

You've got a couple options to get back to her place, my friend.

Before anything though you have to screen her for her LOGISTICS. No point in trying to get back to her place if her place isn't available (for whatever reason). So, ask her what part of town she's staying in, if she has any crazy roommates, etc. If she lives 45 minutes away and stays with her two sisters then you know her place isn't ideal and you need to find another solution BUT assuming her logistics are fine then you have some solid options. Keep in mind, I followed Chase's advice on how to do this almost word for word so this isn't something I figured out by myself.

You can go bluntly with something like;

"Hey, let's get out of here. My roommates are pretty wild and your place is pretty close so how about we head back to your place to hang out and talk a little bit more."

I prefer barrier options which look like this;

"You know, I'm really enjoying spending time with you and I'd like to go somewhere we can chill and talk more but my place is pretty far away and my roommates tend to act like stampeding animals/ are watching the football game so we won't have any privacy."

Generally, women that like you will invite you back to her place and if she doesn't offer it then you can suggest it. Assuming a girl likes you and logistics are sound then this works very well.

Also, you can make it somewhat of a value-exchange type of suggestion where you do something (or invest in some way) because you're putting her in a tight spot by trying to go back to her place so you even things out by investing and THEN going back to her place.

"I'm enjoying spending time with you but this coffee/tea/etc. left me a little bit hungry. There's an awesome little taco joint up the street so how about we pick up a quick bite to eat and head back to your place since it's closer and quieter than mine?"

I'm fairly confident there are other ways to go about it but these are the ones that have worked well for me. The barrier (in particular) works well because I'm super playful and like to do a lot of teasing and laughing so setting up a barrier gives me an opportunity to be playful while inviting myself back to her place. Just make it very casual and not-a-big-deal and you'll do fine.

Lastly, if you screen her early and it turns out that going to her place or yours isn't an option then you may want to look in to escalating in public places or getting a cheap motel for the night. Motels are a little bit hit-and-miss because there's an implication to "Getting a motel" so you have to be sure that a girl is interested in you ahead of time while public places CAN be tougher to pull off they generally start out easier and can become tougher. So, "motels" generally start off tough but once a girl accepts it becomes waaayyy easier while public places start off easier and CAN get tougher. So, if you're not sure a girl is cool with a motel then go with a public place and deal with the LMR as it comes up.

-Richard

 

[Jack123Frost]

Richard,

thank you for the guidance,

-J

 

[Jakeroviks]

I prefer to go to hers. For one, its more comfortable for her while also being a larger investment on her part.

Secondly, I like getting to know the girls I sleep with and this gives me a look into their life.

You shouldn't have an issue getting invited over, and your main problem will be logistics, which you can screen for ahead of time.

 

[Fuck This]

You have a solid excuse for not going to your place. I'd imagine any woman who is considering an overnight stay is going to know you are a fireman.

Now, what are you doing off shift? You don't have another crash pad with fireman roommates for off shift nights?