How to get past attraction

[Sub-Zero]

I can attract women easy and have them all over me, but when it's time for dates and to smash, they act so different.

What can I do for them to act the same and make things easier ?

 

[Mr.Rob]

Girls all over you is reactions. Compliance is what will get you results. Aim for the latter.

 

[DarkKnight]

This is my sticking point as well, so I am not at all an authority, but I did put some thought into the subject.

I agree with Rob that compliance is the way to go. We men tend to underestimate how highly women value attention and that a lot of time this is what they are really after, despite attraction. I also think a lot of men have trained women to expect attention without really having to do anything for it so there is always this unconscious expectation.

Which is all really nice, but doesnt really help us and wastes tons of time. So we have to put a price tag on our time and that price tag is compliance and forward momentum.

But think about it a girl not wanting to continue in escalation is actually telling you with behavior that she is happy with status quo.

But again, I am in no way an expert and would love feedback from someone more experienced (Chase, Franco?)

 

[Mr.Rob]

Dark Knight,

Your synopsis is on the mark. You think a gals into you but if she wont follow your lead or comply she aint really bout it.

Meanwhile you meet a girl whose maybe cold and indifferent at first but you ask her to move and she comes. Ask her grab a nightcap and she rolls with. Ask her to take her panties off and off they go.

 

[DarkKnight]

Okay Rob,

Usually this is pretty binary (0/1), but I can remember this one incident from quite some time ago on which I can still not put my finger. Girl gave me an obvious approach invitation which I used promptly, I deep dived well, had a good connection. I asked her out and she agreed very enthousiastically. I finished conversation and went about my business and not 2 minutes later she started verbally resisting me hard publicly, pretty much backpedalling after our conversation was already over. I was in no position to persist, so wrote her up as a lost cause. 10 minutes later I noticed her staring at me with a confused look and I was really creeped out because of the weirdness. She was a really nice girl but the behavior was all over the place and I had to think of my reputation. (Social circle)

Next time I saw her, she was VERY happy to see me (weird huh?), but I already had moved on, I guess I had autorejected myself, which in some cases is a healthy thing to do. Soon after I met some new girls, which she noticed and flew into autorejection pretty bad. Afterwards I noticed her going out of her way hovering around my workplace (she is not a colleague, but I noticed her across the street where she had no business) while also being really tense.

I get attention seekers, I also get compliant girls. But these flip flopping types, what do you make of them?

 

[Mr.Rob]

I haven't run into a ton of these situations but it sounds a bit like she was on the fence of auto rejection and then changed her mind wishing she didn't auto reject.

Kinda just one of those pick up anamoly's you run into from time to time.

Definitely would've been worthwhile to capitalize on the IOI's she put out after the fact, you probably could've upped your attainability/warmness and turned it around.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Then again she could just be a little coocoo for cocoa puffs.

Pick up is a box of chocolates, you never know what your going to get

 

[DarkKnight]

Well autorejection doesn't explain compliance-> ressistance -> buyers remorse -> confusion within ten minutes and next week again umpromted enthousiasm. Something definitely happened there and I think it is quantifiable one way or the other. Maybe it will click one day, let's just agree that we don't know yet .

Regardless, I appreciate the feedback so I thank you