Went out at 6pm to do some street game in the city. Got there at about 7 and ended up walking around the main mall and tourist areas to try find girls to approach. Made the mistake of not talking early to people and ended up missing some easy approaches. Ended up going into clothing stores and talking to the staff to build some momentum.
Had been walking around for probably about an hr at this stage. As I'm crossing a large bridge I notice a cute girl dressed in white looking out over the water. I know I have to approach. Open her and find out she's Indian but she's been living in Cali the last 8 yrs. She's also over on holiday and will be leaving tomorrow morning. I ask her if she wants to go grab a drink and she's down.
We go to two bars. The whole time I feel like she's into me so don't try and pump up my value too much. Instead I try build a lot of comfort and do some good screening and qualifying and deep diving. We talk about relationships, hobbies, work, family, etc. By the end of the second bar she's talking a lot and I feel like she's pretty comfortable. I also frame her as adventurous, independent etc. Didn't really physically escalate however which wasn't ideal. Also difficult to build a sexual vibe w this girl- seems kind of conservative. Nonetheless kept showing intent: "that's sexy (re belly dancing)" "You look really fit and cute what do you do to keep in shape" etc.
After this second bar however I'm unsure of where to lead her and hesitate a little. It's 11pm now. I live w rents so that's a no go. She has a room mate in her hostel so that's a maybe. Also considered trying to take her to a quiet park or something. Essentially there's a period of hesitation where I ask her if she's keen to go to this more isolated area- but she'd been there yesterday, ask her if she was hungry- she wasn't, and then essentially decide to walk towards her hostel. On the way I keep the convo going. She says she doesn't want me to have to walk all the way back but I say it's fine.
Get to the bottom of her hostel. She looks to me to say goodbye and I hesitate and give her a hug (should've gone for kiss). She wants to put my number in her phone. While she's fumbling w her phone I know I'll regret it if I don't try for the kiss even though there I'm not 100% if she'll be down (though has been very compliant w my leading). I tell her I want to say goodbye properly and go for the kiss. She's receptive and we start making out.
Now I ask her if she want to go to the park across the street to chill for a bit. She says she needs to pack. I then ask her if she needs a hand packing. She gets what I mean but says that she should be fine. Make out w her again and then we part ways.
Two issues I'd really appreciate some advice about (and of course anything else if I'm completely missing the picture):
1. Not persistent enough at the end? Not sure if I was bad that I asked if she wanted to go to the park/her room instead of just leading. Would be good to know what others would do from here to get back to her room.
2. When to go for the kiss? Was thinking about it at the bar, then on the walk to her hostel. I recall an article from Chase where he said he slept w women more if he didn't go for the make out before getting back to a place. Not sure if in his cases though they already know what's up. I feel like w my girl she wasn't expecting it. In retrospect maybe a good option would have been to chill at the bottom of her hostel and build a bit more comfort? Any thoughts would be much appreciated.
Had been walking around for probably about an hr at this stage. As I'm crossing a large bridge I notice a cute girl dressed in white looking out over the water. I know I have to approach. Open her and find out she's Indian but she's been living in Cali the last 8 yrs. She's also over on holiday and will be leaving tomorrow morning. I ask her if she wants to go grab a drink and she's down.
We go to two bars. The whole time I feel like she's into me so don't try and pump up my value too much. Instead I try build a lot of comfort and do some good screening and qualifying and deep diving. We talk about relationships, hobbies, work, family, etc. By the end of the second bar she's talking a lot and I feel like she's pretty comfortable. I also frame her as adventurous, independent etc. Didn't really physically escalate however which wasn't ideal. Also difficult to build a sexual vibe w this girl- seems kind of conservative. Nonetheless kept showing intent: "that's sexy (re belly dancing)" "You look really fit and cute what do you do to keep in shape" etc.
After this second bar however I'm unsure of where to lead her and hesitate a little. It's 11pm now. I live w rents so that's a no go. She has a room mate in her hostel so that's a maybe. Also considered trying to take her to a quiet park or something. Essentially there's a period of hesitation where I ask her if she's keen to go to this more isolated area- but she'd been there yesterday, ask her if she was hungry- she wasn't, and then essentially decide to walk towards her hostel. On the way I keep the convo going. She says she doesn't want me to have to walk all the way back but I say it's fine.
Get to the bottom of her hostel. She looks to me to say goodbye and I hesitate and give her a hug (should've gone for kiss). She wants to put my number in her phone. While she's fumbling w her phone I know I'll regret it if I don't try for the kiss even though there I'm not 100% if she'll be down (though has been very compliant w my leading). I tell her I want to say goodbye properly and go for the kiss. She's receptive and we start making out.
Now I ask her if she want to go to the park across the street to chill for a bit. She says she needs to pack. I then ask her if she needs a hand packing. She gets what I mean but says that she should be fine. Make out w her again and then we part ways.
Two issues I'd really appreciate some advice about (and of course anything else if I'm completely missing the picture):
1. Not persistent enough at the end? Not sure if I was bad that I asked if she wanted to go to the park/her room instead of just leading. Would be good to know what others would do from here to get back to her room.
2. When to go for the kiss? Was thinking about it at the bar, then on the walk to her hostel. I recall an article from Chase where he said he slept w women more if he didn't go for the make out before getting back to a place. Not sure if in his cases though they already know what's up. I feel like w my girl she wasn't expecting it. In retrospect maybe a good option would have been to chill at the bottom of her hostel and build a bit more comfort? Any thoughts would be much appreciated.
