How to handle a flake when a girl doesn't respond?

[RDawg]

So recently, I have had 3 flakes in the past week. One girl flaked on me twice and the other once (I know interest levels were not the issue here). Not sure the reason behind these flakes but I posted the interactions with these women under my journals if you wanted to check those out.

Anyways, my questions here is how do you handle a girl who flakes on you and doesn't respond at all. She doesn't message you or message you back to cancel?

E.g. Ill text an hour or two before (after the girl agrees to the date). "Hey XYZ, are we still on tonight?" or "Hey, you still coming by?" Ill get no response to these questions.

How would you handle something like this??? Do you text her something the next day? a week later? 2 weeks later? or write her off?

 

[Adam101]

Short Answer: You don't.

This goes into the abundance mentality thing that gets talked about here all the time. Your efforts are better spent meeting new girls. I've been dealing with a lot of flakes too who have done similar things, but rather than send a text (which builds a mental expectation) I find it more fun, exciting, and just all around positive to go find someone who will be into me. Thing is if a girl is into you, she'll make it known and it sounds like here that's not the case. Granted I'm a total novice myself so someone more experienced might have better insight.

You can try sending maybe one text after a week or so. Just a casual "What's up?" kind to see if she'll bite the bait. I haven't had any returns on this myself but better to throw it out there than not. Anyway best of luck.

 

[RDawg]

Adam101

Thanks for the advice! I probably should have made these flakes a little more clear. One of the girls that flaked on me last night actually came over to my house Saturday Night. We made out and flirted but didn't have sex (she resisted a lot). So i don't think interest levels were an issue with her. The other girl that flaked on me twice, she had messaged me first (I have a bit of a past with her but we never had sex, we went on a date and made out but this was years ago), so again interest levels don't seem to be an issue with her either. However, with all that being said, your right about the "abundance mentality" and meeting new girls. I think that is the best approach

- Rdawg