How to handle a guy who feels insecure around me

[andersen09]

So in my class, there's a guy who's very socially awkward and weird. He's balding, little bit creepy, but a good guy at heart. I'm genuinely warm towards people and love people, and I befriended him, while others were talking shit about how weird he is, I was warm and always encouraged him to do better. However, what's been happening lately is very weird.

Unfortunately, every girl he's into, they're into me. And he doesn't realize (not to sound harsh), he's out of league for these women and at the same time, doesn't realize he doesn't have a chance. And when I was warm to him, I guess he got too comfortable around me to act a certain way. As girls flirt with me he'll say comments such as

"Man these girls don't even like you man"
"She doesn't even like you anymore"
"Dude, why are you wearing a jacket during summer?"

And people around me know that he's being very insecure. And at first I just laughed it off, and now I started ignoring him. What I'm afraid of is, I have my limits with people. And it goes like this. First, I'll be warm to and nice. Second, I'll start ignoring and start putting distance. Third, if he starts going overboard, my other side comes out and violence is usually involved or threats of it.


My problem is though, I want to stop getting to such an extreme side but still stop their behavior from happening. What are some classier ways to addressing these types of behaviors from insecure guys than to confront them 100%

 

[Average]

Lol, this guy sounds like me from a few years ago. I had a friend who was waaaaaaay more socially savvy than me. And I'd occassionally do things that were a bit clumsy in the realm of sophistication.

He handled it by letting me do my clumsy thing, ignoring it (if he doesn't stop then give him a look. Or a signal of some sort) in the moment, and then when we were both alone he'd tell me the stuff I shouldn't do to him publicly.

He did it rather insultingly, so maybe you could try the warm approach, and then get colder and colder when telling him if he doesn't listen to you.

If worst comes to worst then just know that you don't owe this guy anything and you can easily walk away from him with nobody judging you.