How to improve my approach

EternalStudent

Space Monkey
space monkey
Joined
May 21, 2021
Messages
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Hey all,

So on Monday I cold approached a former co-worker at my gym. I told her that I thought she was cool so far and it'd be nice if we got a bite together. She agreed; I took her number and we parted ways.

About an hour later, I sent an icebreaker text. About a day later (the timing was all unplanned btw, I was just particularly busy for the past two days), I asked her out with the following text:

"What's good (her name)
Good to see that you're tryna get right at the gym
I'm glad school's over so I can bang out a couple of workouts myself earlier in the day
Btw when are you free this week? I have an idea for a place we can eat"

I haven't heard a response from her since.

I'm getting impression she was too polite to say she wasn't interested.
 

Skjöldr

Modern Human
Modern Human
Joined
Nov 18, 2019
Messages
963
Hey all,

So on Monday I cold approached a former co-worker at my gym. I told her that I thought she was cool so far and it'd be nice if we got a bite together. She agreed; I took her number and we parted ways.

About an hour later, I sent an icebreaker text. About a day later (the timing was all unplanned btw, I was just particularly busy for the past two days), I asked her out with the following text:

"What's good (her name)
Good to see that you're tryna get right at the gym
I'm glad school's over so I can bang out a couple of workouts myself earlier in the day
Btw when are you free this week? I have an idea for a place we can eat"

I haven't heard a response from her since.

I'm getting impression she was too polite to say she wasn't interested.
It wasnt a cold approach because she was a former co-worker and that text was horrible you opened and closed in the same first text, icebreaker too, i used to do the same. I would advice checking out @Skills basic text guide that isn't perfect and not set in stone but will have way higher odds than that sort of open->hard close in the icebreaker. It will give you a better idea of testing the water and feeling her out before you close, that's the spirit of it: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/simple-basic-texting-guide.23663/
 

EternalStudent

Space Monkey
space monkey
Joined
May 21, 2021
Messages
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It wasnt a cold approach because she was a former co-worker and that text was horrible you opened and closed in the same first text, icebreaker too, i used to do the same. I would advice checking out @Skills basic text guide that isn't perfect and not set in stone but will have way higher odds than that sort of open->hard close in the icebreaker. It will give you a better idea of testing the water and feeling her out before you close, that's the spirit of it: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/simple-basic-texting-guide.23663/
Thanks for the help man.
 
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