How to Make the Most of my Time Left in College and Go Out with a Bang

[The Emerald Archer]

With the school year winding down and me rapidly approaching my senior year of college, I've begun to reflect on a bunch of different things along my journey. I would definitely say my college experience has been a blessed one and I've had a lot of fun and experienced so many new and different things. However, I can't help shake the feeling that I've left quite a bit on the table/could've done more. My social skills have improved exponentially since I first started college and I can sense this "quiet confidence" about myself as a result of the various life lessons and experiences I've learned along the way.

The main thing I've felt I've underachieved in is getting laid and overall SKILL with females. Don't get me wrong, I've come a long way since I first began socially but I just didn't get laid as much as I wanted. I know this is all my doing and my responsibility, but I would like to squeeze every last ounce of opportunity in this regard in the next year by the time I graduate next spring (2018). The best way I can describe this feeling is "slightly detached." Not necessarily that I'm an isolated loner and feel shitty, etc. But detached as in I'm letting opportunities slip by even though I know deep down that I have the potential to really capitalize and make something of those opportunities.

Part of me feels like I'll never forgive myself if I fumble this last year in terms of at least setting myself up for success with girls (and life) after I graduate. I worked in the corporate world for 7.5 months in 2016 (back-to-back co-ops) and I learned just how limited time becomes after college. Now, this is not meant to be a thread about how life after college sucks for girls/socializing, etc. I know that there are a plethora of opportunities to socialize and get laid after college, I just think it will be a little more difficult because now a person will have to slightly go out of their way to create that for themselves as opposed to having the opportunities intertwined like in undergrad. I have no problem with this and will embrace socializing and getting laid after college with open arms because I love a good challenge .

My main stance is that I would like to squeeze every last social opportunity I can in this last year and especially take advantage of cold approaching/socializing (mainly during the day) while I still have a decent amount of free time, and a huge volume of girls within a small area to which I can rack up lots of approaches in a short period of time---> thus building skill fairly quickly or at least quicker than I would be able to once I graduate.

The reason why I say I feel like I'll never be able to forgive myself is because of certain "advantages/tools" that I feel I have over other males at my university. They are:

• Being older and more mature than the demographic on campus (I'm 24 years old, have worked in the corporate world, traveled overseas, lots of general socializing/partying experience, etc.
  
  Being a competitive weightlifter and muscular for my height (5'8") which makes me stand out a bit.
  
  Being in a Fraternity and being Vice President, thus showing leadership capabilities.
  
  My overall looks and fundamentals since I've been working on them for a few years now (fashion, walk, posture, eye contact, etc.).
  
  Plenty of money saved up so that I don't have to work at the moment and taking 12-13 credits so not too crazy of a class workload which frees up a lot of time that I can spend on this.

Also, my university is considered a commuter campus with ~20,000 undergraduate students and is connected right next to downtown in a city of ~200K population so I can definitely get away with cold approaching during the day. My main goals would be:

• Around 1000 legit cold approaches (mainly daytime) to build a solid base of skill
  13-15 new lays (non-online; either social circle or cold approach)
  Proficiency in approaching girls (and people) during the day out of habit and not having to psyche myself up beforehand (i.e. no approach anxiety?)

Perhaps I'm putting too much pressure on myself and being way too eager and unrealistic with expectations, which is why I wanted your guys' input. I believe I have a good arsenal of "tools" at my disposal but it seems like my main issue is not pulling the trigger, lack of sincere determination, possible depression?

What are your recommendations on leaving college with as big a bang as possible given these circumstances?

Thanks!

-BBeyond

 

[alleniverson]

Be social as fuck. Talk to everyone. Have no fear and go out a lot. Realize that college girls are more open to getting fucked than anyone, especially with the size of your school. Just lead the way and they will follow. You can really slay within minutes. And don't switch up your behavior to make them smile at you or receive you better, just be in a good mood, assume attraction and go for the goal and if they're not acting in accordance with how you want them to act, don't break frame or just go onto the next.

 

[The Emerald Archer]

Be social as fuck. Talk to everyone. Have no fear and go out a lot. Realize that college girls are more open to getting fucked than anyone, especially with the size of your school. Just lead the way and they will follow. You can really slay within minutes. And don't switch up your behavior to make them smile at you or receive you better, just be in a good mood, assume attraction and go for the goal and if they're not acting in accordance with how you want them to act, don't break frame or just go onto the next.

Yeah, that was the point I was trying to get across. Taking advantage of the fact that college is a very social environment and that most girls are in a very adventurous/exploring type of mode sexually. Could you be a bit more specific in terms of your advice? Like, is it worth joining a bunch of clubs at this point (with only a year left after this semester) just in hopes of getting laid, or just practice cold approach as if I was in a big city and/or possibly do an approach anxiety program? I'm already in a fraternity and people in that circle tend to view me as a really cool dude and respect me, I'm just having trouble in terms of a basic battle plan with one year left.

 

[Fuck This]

Set up a network for post-College.

Join the Alumni association and recruit some cute girls like the officers of the sororities on campus to help you in the social events associated with that.

Think about how many single females are going to be alone in a new city when they accept that entry level corporate job, or who are going to be on the road travelling. They get lonely and looking for the comfort of a familiar crowd. Bam...Impromptu alumni tailgate party before the game next Fall.

Look forward,,,,,Not back...Build for the future. Get a girl in every port, and then meet her friends...

 

[alleniverson]

Yeah, that was the point I was trying to get across. Taking advantage of the fact that college is a very social environment and that most girls are in a very adventurous/exploring type of mode sexually. Could you be a bit more specific in terms of your advice? Like, is it worth joining a bunch of clubs at this point (with only a year left after this semester) just in hopes of getting laid, or just practice cold approach as if I was in a big city and/or possibly do an approach anxiety program? I'm already in a fraternity and people in that circle tend to view me as a really cool dude and respect me, I'm just having trouble in terms of a basic battle plan with one year left.

Getting involved in clubs can't hurt but I'd say only join one if you want to do it for you in addition to the pussy. As in meeting chicks should be a byproduct of the club. One thing I've learned recently is the power of making plans. If there's a girl you know and you think you may be able to hook up with her, don't be afraid to make a plan with her a few days in advance. It's really rare for guys to do that, so even if you're just inviting her over to talk/have a drink at your place/netflix or whatever you're more likely to fuck. I'd see where your friends who fuck are meeting girls and then tag along with them. But if you're in a fraternity and you have good social standing all it should take is for you to meet girls at every possible point and go for it.

If you want to do cold approach and there's some really hot ass walking around that you wouldn't naturally bump into fuck it, go for it. Doesn't have to be super direct on the open because that can have consequences, but honestly you only have a year left, girls will know there's nothing to it so don't worry about people hearing you got rejected as much. Laugh it off and they will too.

 

[The Emerald Archer]

Getting involved in clubs can't hurt but I'd say only join one if you want to do it for you in addition to the pussy. As in meeting chicks should be a byproduct of the club. One thing I've learned recently is the power of making plans. If there's a girl you know and you think you may be able to hook up with her, don't be afraid to make a plan with her a few days in advance. It's really rare for guys to do that, so even if you're just inviting her over to talk/have a drink at your place/netflix or whatever you're more likely to fuck. I'd see where your friends who fuck are meeting girls and then tag along with them. But if you're in a fraternity and you have good social standing all it should take is for you to meet girls at every possible point and go for it.

Solid perspective AI. I'm def open to joining a club or two for shits and giggles if it piques my interest. Since it's my last year, I don't feel that doing so just to get pussy would be a very efficient use of time since cold approach does a solid job in that realm. You're spot on about tagging along with my friends. Most of the fraternity is freshman/sophomores so I guess I've been assuming wrong about it being weird for a 24 year old to consistently hang out with guys that age. I must say some of those younger guys are pretty decent with the ladies and especially being social in general. Guess I should open my mind more and tag along for sure.

If you want to do cold approach and there's some really hot ass walking around that you wouldn't naturally bump into fuck it, go for it. Doesn't have to be super direct on the open because that can have consequences, but honestly you only have a year left, girls will know there's nothing to it so don't worry about people hearing you got rejected as much. Laugh it off and they will too.

Haha my thoughts exactly! Since I'm gonna be gone after next spring I really want to go for broke and burn the damn place to the ground! Within reason of course, doesn't mean I'm gonna go around spam approaching and being ultra direct when it's uncalled for, but I like your mentality.

Set up a network for post-College.

Join the Alumni association and recruit some cute girls like the officers of the sororities on campus to help you in the social events associated with that.

Think about how many single females are going to be alone in a new city when they accept that entry level corporate job, or who are going to be on the road travelling. They get lonely and looking for the comfort of a familiar crowd. Bam...Impromptu alumni tailgate party before the game next Fall.

Look forward,,,,,Not back...Build for the future. Get a girl in every port, and then meet her friends...

Damn...never thought of something like that. Setting up a post-college network is definitely one of my priorities senior year, but I don't know too much about alumni events/organizations. Are these mainly networking events consisting of recent graduates? Being involved in anything alum I feel would be pretty cool and beneficial, could possibly give you some status at particular school (maybe?).

I def like the alumni suggestion, I'll have to look into it for sure. Do you guys have any recommendations on getting connected to find job opportunities vs. traditional applying by sending your resume? Like, building/meeting a network of people that could potentially introduce me to some job opportunities in my field after graduation.

After re-reading my post I feel like I gave the wrong impression. Part of it seems like I gave the vibe that I missed out a little and while part of that is true (to a small extent-mainly getting laid, not general socializing as I feel I've done a solid job at that), I now realize that a better title for this post would have been "How to Milk Every Last Opportunity in College My Final Year."