I use the bus a lot when going to the university , and I noticed a lot of girls giving me approach invitations like glancing at me or "accidentally" brushing me etc.. but I always don't know what to say , I get nervous with all these people around , any good openers ?
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Hi Mogga,
From my experience riding a shuttle to (and from) my university classes every day, I've found that opening with a unique compliment or noticing something about the girl and making a comment based on that works best.
For instance, some girls put pins on their bags that are really interesting (a great conversation starter) or some girls have a style that is really unique (you can say, "Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice how you dyed your hair - it suites you very well! Why did you choose that color?"). Tattoos are also a great option (especially to break the touch barrier with fast!).
With being nervous, make sure your approaching girls when you're not on the bus to build social momentum. Also, I've approached girls on the bus like above and have found that people don't care. In fact, some people listen to the conversation and find it interesting (I've been told this). I've gotten multiple numbers and a few dates this way so don't be afraid to approach and be a unique, interesting guy!
NewBeeWinner
From my experience riding a shuttle to (and from) my university classes every day, I've found that opening with a unique compliment or noticing something about the girl and making a comment based on that works best.
For instance, some girls put pins on their bags that are really interesting (a great conversation starter) or some girls have a style that is really unique (you can say, "Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice how you dyed your hair - it suites you very well! Why did you choose that color?"). Tattoos are also a great option (especially to break the touch barrier with fast!).
With being nervous, make sure your approaching girls when you're not on the bus to build social momentum. Also, I've approached girls on the bus like above and have found that people don't care. In fact, some people listen to the conversation and find it interesting (I've been told this). I've gotten multiple numbers and a few dates this way so don't be afraid to approach and be a unique, interesting guy!
NewBeeWinner
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Hey man just memorize a couple of canned openers. You don't want to be in the position where you have to think about what you have to do or say. I lost too many opportunities because of that. Just memorize some openers, write it down so you can use it on the fly. If the girl likes your vibe it doesn't matter if you come off a little rusty, she will probably be busy with being too nervous. I use the same cheesy lines over and over again, it has become quite amusing 
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.I think many guys are too aggressive on busses and trains.
Make sure you are getting clear IOI's and approach invitations from a woman on a bus or train. You've basically got her cornered
Don't be this guy:
Eye contact and a smile.
Hood on and earbuds in = No Go. That is "leave me the fuck alone" body language
If she is sitting, don't stand over her.
If she won't hold eye contact and seems nervous back off
After saying hello and some small talk, often they invite me to sit down next to them. Then it flows.
Make sure you are getting clear IOI's and approach invitations from a woman on a bus or train. You've basically got her cornered
Don't be this guy:
Eye contact and a smile.
Hood on and earbuds in = No Go. That is "leave me the fuck alone" body language
If she is sitting, don't stand over her.
If she won't hold eye contact and seems nervous back off
After saying hello and some small talk, often they invite me to sit down next to them. Then it flows.
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FT makes great points.
One of the only types Day Game I've done / do is on the bus. I think it's a solid two-birds one-stone thing.
A good move to try and start the conversation at the bus stop and gauge her interest, then sit down with her if she seems interested, which also builds the leading dynamic and compliance. If not, carry on and perhaps open someone who's already on.
As far as when you get on the bus and see a hot girl, I did this at my old school. If it's really crowded, sit very close to them (1-2 seats away). If there's not a whole lot of people on the bus, I would sit directly or almost directly across from her - this will be far more natural for conversation with an empty bus were you to go straight next to her (think of that guy that pisses in the urinal next to you in the bathroom for no reason).
You can open with a simple "Hi (= " or a "How's your day going?" just to gauge interest. I'm sure a specific opener or a compliment could work too, but since you're already there, in a situation together, neither of you guys going anywhere, you don't NEED such an attention grabbing opener to hook her there. She's there, you're there, work a slow build. That said, if you manage to get her attention before you show that you've seen her, I would try to throw in a contextual opener or compliment to jump straight into conversation as if you've just noticed something in her / about her.
Easy to screen for logistics and adapt your pace too, by asking when she stops. Will this be a 30 second interaction or a 10 minute conversation? Am I gonna have to just shoot my shot and get her number or will I be able to build a good connection / strong attraction?
I've seen a lot of guys trying to hit on girls on the bus before and it be creepy. I think it's important to be warm with low effort and, as FT points out, not overly aggressive or leaving her feeling trapped.
Hue
One of the only types Day Game I've done / do is on the bus. I think it's a solid two-birds one-stone thing.
A good move to try and start the conversation at the bus stop and gauge her interest, then sit down with her if she seems interested, which also builds the leading dynamic and compliance. If not, carry on and perhaps open someone who's already on.
As far as when you get on the bus and see a hot girl, I did this at my old school. If it's really crowded, sit very close to them (1-2 seats away). If there's not a whole lot of people on the bus, I would sit directly or almost directly across from her - this will be far more natural for conversation with an empty bus were you to go straight next to her (think of that guy that pisses in the urinal next to you in the bathroom for no reason).
You can open with a simple "Hi (= " or a "How's your day going?" just to gauge interest. I'm sure a specific opener or a compliment could work too, but since you're already there, in a situation together, neither of you guys going anywhere, you don't NEED such an attention grabbing opener to hook her there. She's there, you're there, work a slow build. That said, if you manage to get her attention before you show that you've seen her, I would try to throw in a contextual opener or compliment to jump straight into conversation as if you've just noticed something in her / about her.
Easy to screen for logistics and adapt your pace too, by asking when she stops. Will this be a 30 second interaction or a 10 minute conversation? Am I gonna have to just shoot my shot and get her number or will I be able to build a good connection / strong attraction?
I've seen a lot of guys trying to hit on girls on the bus before and it be creepy. I think it's important to be warm with low effort and, as FT points out, not overly aggressive or leaving her feeling trapped.
Hue