How to overcome you are not my type objection

[empath]

Girl objects you are not my type by seeing insta or from voice notes.

I usually avoid sharing insta or sending voice notes because its death for me afterwards.

But sometimes its unavoidable, and after sharing that... Generally girl ends up rejecting to meet. Saying " I will be honest you are not my type"

How do I turn the situation around over the text.

Asking for online.

 

[OldGuy]

This would work better in person, but I would try "I know, but we could have fun while looking for our type." She may actully see that you are not her type, but still be down for some fun.

 

[Tryst]

Saying " I will be honest you are not my type"

What does "You are not my type" mean?

Don't analyse it as the words - the words are not important. You need to understand it as what she is actually communicating to you.

This sentence can translate into English as either:
1) I am not attracted to you
2) I am attracted to you, but there's something about you which strikes me as different to what I normally go for, and this is causing some cognitive dissonance in me, or I'm just trying to fuck with you/playing a game (this is a shit test).

Case 2 is simple. You just handle it as a shit test. Shit tests in general arise from cognitive dissonance.

But based on

Girl objects you are not my type by seeing insta or from voice notes.

I usually avoid sharing insta or sending voice notes because its death for me afterwards.

I'm gonna gues case 1 is the relevant case for you. This means that something about your instagram, or the way you speak is killing the attraction (low value.)

You can fix pretty much anything in game - the only thing you can't fix is low value after she's gotten to know you. She's wasn't attracted to you enough, and whatever it is on your IG is killing her attraction stone dead.

There's no way to fix this problem, except for some massive DHV to get attraction again (very hard).

You can only figure out how to avoid this problem in future. Your instagram and voice notes must really suck if this is a recurring problem. Or (more probably) you've misidagnosed the problem, and the problems actually start appearing way before they see your IG.

Whenever some guy complains about problems getting girls to qualify, the problem is rarely his qualification. It's a lack of attraction. Problems in comfort normally come from problems in attraction and qualification. Problems getting her to take her clothes off normally come from problems in comfort/attraction/qualification. Whenever you keep getting a problem at the same point, you have to look at what happened before you get to that point. Don't try to cure symptoms, when the problems are more underlying - prophylaxis is key.

Also, when you try to translate specific phrases "you're not my type", into more general concepts "I'm not attracted to you", the solutions become obvious. "you're not my type" ="I'm not dating right now" = "you're really sweet, but", all of them == "I'm not attracted to you" or [shit test].

Have a think about it. How do your approaches go up until this point? What's your success like when they don't see your IG/voice notes?

- Tryst

 

[empath]

What does "You are not my type" mean?

Don't analyse it as the words - the words are not important. You need to understand it as what she is actually communicating to you.

This sentence can translate into English as either:
1) I am not attracted to you
2) I am attracted to you, but there's something about you which strikes me as different to what I normally go for, and this is causing some cognitive dissonance in me, or I'm just trying to fuck with you/playing a game (this is a shit test).

Case 2 is simple. You just handle it as a shit test. Shit tests in general arise from cognitive dissonance.

But based on

I'm gonna gues case 1 is the relevant case for you. This means that something about your instagram, or the way you speak is killing the attraction (low value.)

You can fix pretty much anything in game - the only thing you can't fix is low value after she's gotten to know you. She's wasn't attracted to you enough, and whatever it is on your IG is killing her attraction stone dead.

There's no way to fix this problem, except for some massive DHV to get attraction again (very hard).

You can only figure out how to avoid this problem in future. Your instagram and voice notes must really suck if this is a recurring problem. Or (more probably) you've misidagnosed the problem, and the problems actually start appearing way before they see your IG.

Whenever some guy complains about problems getting girls to qualify, the problem is rarely his qualification. It's a lack of attraction. Problems in comfort normally come from problems in attraction and qualification. Problems getting her to take her clothes off normally come from problems in comfort/attraction/qualification. Whenever you keep getting a problem at the same point, you have to look at what happened before you get to that point. Don't try to cure symptoms, when the problems are more underlying - prophylaxis is key.

Also, when you try to translate specific phrases "you're not my type", into more general concepts "I'm not attracted to you", the solutions become obvious. "you're not my type" ="I'm not dating right now" = "you're really sweet, but", all of them == "I'm not attracted to you" or [shit test].

Have a think about it. How do your approaches go up until this point? What's your success like when they don't see your IG/voice notes?

- Tryst

Like I feel I would not have gotten sucess with certain type of girls if they would have heard my voice or seen insta before specifically, party girls.


Yet in person I'm able to game them 50/50 odds.

I usually don't share insta and all... but I thoght this girl is hooked. So I did.

My mistake. I'm confident I could have laid her if I could have gotten her out on date, but she was very flaky for it and suddenly asked for insta.