How to proceed (woman at a shop)

[Zaxxon23]

At the garage where I get my oil changed there is a very cute woman. One day I was surprised because I caught her stealing glances at me, however she is surrounded by other coworkers who work together, so the opportunity for discretion is very small to nonexistent.

Anyways I was in the garage getting tires replaced the other day and ended up in her area to pay. Her coworker went to the back to process something and she immediately launched into a conversation with me. Focusing more on the conversation than getting a number, the time for discretion quickly passed and I was unable to get her contact info.

I was there a second time Monday (second tire replacement legit reason) and she was surrounded by even more people the whole time and there was no way I was going to put her on the spot in that situation.

The one thing that keeps me going here is we had ultra strong eye contact (on both occasions). Most women get at least a little flighty about eye contact and try to look away at least sometimes. This girl just returns the eye contact in full as if she's just drinking me in. There are other signs that tell me I'm not imagining things here. She seems very interested just not in a position to do anything about it.

Anyways I'm in the awkward position here with no legit reason to return until my next oil change, and no way to contact her other than calling the garage and asking to talk to her (which sort of puts her on the spot although not as bad as in person). The thing is she knows my number based on customer records and could contact me herself, however she hasn't done so. Perhaps she's shy or would feel awkward getting those records or is quite simply not as interested as I would like to believe.

What should I do here? Accept I missed an opportunity and move on? Try calling to talk briefly to her and get a number and communicate from there? Go back in person and hope for an opportunity for discretion (this seems stalky and creepy)?

I guess I feel like if I don't do at least something now, the opportunity won't be there anymore a few months down the road when I'm back in the shop again. What should I do?

 

[Raqimus]

You could of had her write her number on a reciept or something, or if you wanted to take the pressure off of her slipped her yours and just left with no turning back.

Your window is missed, don't go back just let things happen naturally again if you do have to go back, and learn to close your not there for tea and conversation your there for pussy and sex. So get the number....next time! in the mean time talk to other girls

 

[Zaxxon23]

Yes of course I'm meeting new girls all the time. I have no problem giving up on this one, however the situation left next to no window in order to trade numbers in a discrete manner. As in she's surrounded by 2-3 other women closely, and the last time I was there 3 women were around and a guy from another dept.

There was maybe a 2-3 min window the first time we talked where there was no one around and that was the introduction to each other. it would have been very weird to ask for a number at that point. No way to know if she's just being friendly or had some interest when just starting to talk.

Whatever, window missed I guess.

 

[ray_zorse]

+1 Raqimus, the only reason to jump in here is to say it would NOT be strange, that's your conditioning and social rules. If you want the number ask her straightaway. Try this for an exercise: Approach a woman in the street. Say "You are cute. Let me have your number". If you do it right she will comply nine times out of ten. It's not efficient because no connection is built, so I don't do this, even though I can pull it off without any problems. However it's case by case -- in your case she already liked you, so probably wouldn't have flaked, despite the relative lack of connection after 2min.

Anyway I love hired-gun game and have been in your situation more times than I can count, but gradually getting better at it. It's certainly a challenging scenario and sometimes you have to gracefully admit defeat -- due to cockblocking colleagues, workplace rules or whatnot. But EVERY SECOND COUNTS, use any alone time and grab no! Same if you street approach a girl who's waiting for a friend.

Ray