Special Girl How to recover from bad texting post lay and desparation

[empath]

Week 1 - friday
Had this lay on the day of first date

Use connection and physical game no gambits.

Took time of 5 hours and 4-5 venue changes and lot of arousal.

Girl was super cagey about sex but I laid her after arousing.

Fucked her 2 times I did not cummed and gave her orgasms

Week 2 - friday

Minimal text from me pinging

Text from her out of blue

She invited to meet I declined

Thu - I invited she declined

Friday - she texted to meet

Similar date venue changes - at home she has periods. She says she will feel pain so we made out and all in my room did not had sex

At this point she mentioned she thought I will not meet her again she is glad I did.

She said next week we will have sex.

Week -3
Again minimal texting

I ramped by calling her but she was busy

She calls me on saturday

I cant meet her at the moment she say no problem

I say late at night she says no

Week 4

Here I dont get her message for 3 days nor I text her.

I ping her with my activity
She sends minimal text of cray cray I dont understand so text her wdym
She replies wdym
Left on read for 1 and half day
Then tell her will tell when we meet.
She dont reply

Now FUCK up
I send her this emoji on saturday

She replies huh
I reply state of my heart
She again replies huh sunday morning

I then send her a pic of food i am eat and text enjoying my breakfast

She dont reply anything -> ghosted

Week 5
Monday

I send her this text

Hey we both were busy for couple of weeks lets catch soon.

Missing those cute moment spent together

-> wait for sometime she dont reply I understand I am ghosted

I then just delete her number

Now bigger FUCK up

I realised I like her a lot.

At this point I have fucked another girl new and chatting with another one but I like this a lot.

And I start getting anixous .

So i send her a request on insta (coz I deleted her number)

At 1:00 am recognising I am chasing I unsend that message ( she probably didnt saw)

Now I continue this behaviour of sending reqest on insta hoping either she text me on phone or accept my request but I send and cancel immediately.

(Probaly she knows I am chasing her now)

This continues on tuesday and wednesday and thurday I.e 3 days

Now on thursday night I have her number I remember writing it

She has not blocked me yet.

Now how should I go about it

I am thinking of calling her once to set up a short meet of 15 min for ice cream

I can either text her or call her

I dont think texting makes sense cause I have already double texted her

I can call her if she picks what conversation to have.

If she dont I will give her a last text.

To get her on date.


Any way to go about it?

Last idea is I just show her text of some other girl wanting to have sex with me or send a pic of me with another girl

What I am having in mind to say on call or last text is this

Mine
Hey, we had this great thing going on, I am assuming you don't do it with everyone and maybe I fucked up somewhere or maybe you are genuinely busy, so you missed my text or thought abour replying later.

I wanted to tell you a bit, but I won't take much of your time.

I think I deserve a chance to say my bit ....
for sake of all the great moments

where ... you put ur head on my shoulder and said I feel like home ...I hope it meant something
..

Yours truly

What my friends suggested
actually i really don’t know what all things didn’t went well….may be from our side

and may be u took things differently or i conveyed u something wrong… and i think u don’t want to take this further

so if that is the case can we just meet for a while and close it on a happy note

and i wont bother u more if this is the case …. but i really enjoyed a good time with you and wanted to continue what we had going on….

tbh I know I fucked up

But this girl was very lovey dovey on both the dates now I dont know whether that was alcholo or hornyness and she did not wanted to feel like a slut.

But the point is I know this is already a gone case so why not?

Ideally I want to reseduce her but closure on why she ghosted me would be good too

She is non clingy and career focused type and I mis read her alcholo behaviour.
I think she is more no nonsense non clingy type of girl

 

[oldhabits]

Omg, you wrote all this already knowing the answer, yet you still try to rationalize the situation to fit your narrative. Move on, get your head right.

 

[empath]

Omg, you wrote all this already knowing the answer, yet you still try to rationalize the situation to fit your narrative. Move on, get your head right.

Noops I want to give it a last shot. I want to do it in best possible way.

How can a girl write off someone so quickly I dont get it when she was egar to meet me. Acting like a pusedo gf during night. I would rather have a bad fight with her so my emotions for her cool down tbh.

Immature yes.

But I will be satisfied in the end.

 

[oldhabits]

Noops I want to give it a last shot. I want to do it in best possible way.

How can a girl write off someone so quickly I dont get it when she was egar to meet me. Acting like a pusedo gf during night. I would rather have a bad fight with her so my emotions for her cool down tbh.

Immature yes.

But I will be satisfied in the end.

A girl interested in you wouldn't ghost you or reply with low energy 'huh' twice to the message you sent, even if it was garbage.

Did she give you her Insta or did you stalk by searching first/last name?

Send a ghosted feeler that implies you know that she must been busy.

Example..
Hey I heard you adopted a baby koala bear or whatever freaking exotic animal here, and that's why you haven't been replying to me recently. Congrats! I bet it keeps you occupied.

If no response, you done. Begone whatever stronghold this succubus has onto you.

 

[empath]

A girl interested in you wouldn't ghost you or reply with low energy 'huh' twice to the message you sent, even if it was garbage.

Did she give you her Insta or did you stalk by searching first/last name?

Send a ghosted feeler that implies you know that she must been busy.

Example..
Hey I heard you adopted a baby koala bear or whatever freaking exotic animal here, and that's why you haven't been replying to me recently. Congrats! I bet it keeps you occupied.

If no response, you done. Begone whatever stronghold this succubus has onto you.

Thanks mate but I don't eye to eye with your advice.

I have already rubbed her off wrong. I need to first not be needy.

Non chalant and dominance was how I had gotten her.

I will probably say I was drunk for the sappy texts.

Call is the best shot her voice tone nd what she says will tell me things.

 

[Skills]

Calls & Texts - Why deleting numbers is one of the dumbest advice there is....

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Best resources of dealing with neediness and onitis....

Ok, so @Karea Ricardus D. looking for this video, i finally found it.... But for everyone in general, Again the best book how down of dealing with neediness is Mark Manson Models...... Hands down! the best video is one of tyler best work in mho crawling out of neediness when first dating here...

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[empath]

@Skills thanks man!

I am wondering I have her number and valentine day is soon.

So I wait for another week or reach out to her now.

My whole insta debacle was due to not having her no.

I am more clam now and have another lead I can pursue in meanwhile.

I was thinking of calling her tonight. Casue its friday it gives me 3 days of meeting window if she is busy.

But I can time it on valentines too.

I did gave her good sex afterall so I have a shot.

Lastly should I send her a screenshot of text from a girl where she has written me.

Hi daddy, missing your cock
When are we fucking again

I could start a jealousy plotline.

 

[Skills]

@Skills thanks man!

I am wondering I have her number and valentine day is soon.

So I wait for another week or reach out to her now.

My whole insta debacle was due to not having her no.

I am more clam now and have another lead I can pursue in meanwhile.

I was thinking of calling her tonight. Casue its friday it gives me 3 days of meeting window if she is busy.

But I can time it on valentines too.

I did gave her good sex afterall so I have a shot.

Lastly should I send her a screenshot of text from a girl where she has written me.

Hi daddy, missing your cock
When are we fucking again

I could start a jealousy plotline.

watch the crawling out of neediness video i posted....neediness is not attractive is a turn off...

@empath ping her on valintines to see if she bites.. with happy valentines day!

 

[empath]

Hey guys I recovered from Ghosting.

Now pls help to take it forward from here

Here this is what I texted

Hey XOXO, I guess we both suck at texting. And yeah, I know my drunk texts didn’t help—things went downhill after that. Anyway, figured I’d end things on a good note.

You know what’s funny? If you close your eyes for just a second, I bet you can still feel it—the way you leaned into me that night, how warm my shoulder felt against you. The way the night air wrapped around us in that taxi, the waves quietly rolling in the background. You even said it yourself… my shoulder felt like home.

What you probably don’t realize is the effect you had on me. But I’ll tell you someday… maybe when I’m fully over it. Almost there.

I crafted this after reading multiple GC article

Focus was on
- being non chalant
- triggering good memories
- creating intrigue
- used a bit of NLP and confirmation bias

Now she replied this

Hey, I guess we do (for texting message)

I was caught up with something throughout to be able to think about anyone by bad

How to take it forward from here

what I read from her text is she is cool with me going away.

She just acknowledged my message.

 

[empath]

I am thinking of replying on these lines

Hopefully you are in a better place now with your social battery charged back.

Btw, remember last time? You were all worked up about your college friend, then we met, you started talking, and before we knew it, you forgot how pissed you were and we were vibing to music, forgetting everything else. Some nights just have that magic, don’t they?

My thoughts are first to get her in positive state before rushing to texting for meet or anything.

At this point its more about testing my theory.

Which when I did earlier, to get her emotional and senti for me or being too gamey did not worked.

Somehow curiosity for this girl dont work over text. Not invested in me much. Probably looks at me as a fun time.

So no point.

The point is even though she dont want to know what effect she had on me? Duh she knows I am the one texting her.

But she also did not acknowledged, moving on or ending things.

So lets put her in yellow now.

From last text I know making her remember good moments work so a part of reply I have thought is

to make her recall good memory!

Now I want to acknowledge her condition first, but I think no point pressing for details. One she dont like to go into details over text.

Checking her state is better because it gives her chance to save her face if ghosted me because she was pissed off and not busy.

Otherwise also it a easier answer for her to answer

The question is should I use recalling her sensory details or its a overkill

I have realised with this girl I have deeper insecurities to work on.

Probably whatever attracted me to this girl so quickly has to do with things I lack in myself.

I am someone who is looking for a sense of completeness through relationships.

And I need to work on completeing myself first rather than relationships.

 

[superseducer]

I would call her

 

[empath]

I would call her

I had called her yesterday but she cut it.

So I sent the text in morning.

Not calling her because A) she is super busy.
B) we have made plans to meet over text only.
C) when I tried calling her before had a bit of ackwardnesa. (Not good with calls personally)
D) she is lives a sort of busy life or atlest it seems from outside

So I sent her this instead

Hey damn, something that rough you forgot everything? Hope life’s treating you better. What’s the vibe ... feeling like a champ or still in recovery mode?

btw, remember that vibe last time? You were all worked up about your friend, then we met, and the music just took over. Before we knew it, you were laughing, and everything else faded. Crazy how fast a moment can flip, huh?

Tbh I am not expecting any replies.

And I think i should have not called back memory so soon

But still the plan is to make her enthu get her banter mode first idk how I will do that? Meh...

But overthinking now just testing stuff on her.

 

[empath]

watch the crawling out of neediness video i posted....neediness is not attractive is a turn off...

@empath ping her on valintines to see if she bites.. with happy valentines day!

@Skills

Damn this video is all the spot on.

I am they guy in that and even learning and executing PU does not fix this underlying issue.

My first 2 serious relationships were with broken girls.

Whom Idk why the hell I was trying to help and seek help from in name of love.

Now I up my PU skills a bit I go for emotionally distant womens.

I wonder how to fix the underlying issue.

Guys have here said it and I asked my friends as well, all they said was to ignore this women.

And like you said in the video it was this only, I was feeling I will never find a person like this.

Why a person needs to be source of my happiness.

Man any idea or resource on how to fix the underlying issue.

I have inseucre and avoidant atachment style basically disorganised.

Have issues with emotional outburst since I was a child.

PU and GC has helped immensely but I feel If I continue picking up girls like I am I would be probably leaving a bad taste in their mouth in the end.

 

[Skills]

@Skills

Damn this video is all the spot on.

I am they guy in that and even learning and executing PU does not fix this underlying issue.

My first 2 serious relationships were with broken girls.

Whom Idk why the hell I was trying to help and seek help from in name of love.

Now I up my PU skills a bit I go for emotionally distant womens.

I wonder how to fix the underlying issue.

Guys have here said it and I asked my friends as well, all they said was to ignore this women.

And like you said in the video it was this only, I was feeling I will never find a person like this.

Why a person needs to be source of my happiness.

Man any idea or resource on how to fix the underlying issue.

I have inseucre and avoidant atachment style basically disorganised.

Have issues with emotional outburst since I was a child.

PU and GC has helped immensely but I feel If I continue picking up girls like I am I would be probably leaving a bad taste in their mouth in the end.

yes you want lines, but you need to first fix your underlying issue which is neediness, there are 3 good books:

- the passion trap
- models mark manson
- no more mr. nice guy...


you need to fix the neediness underlying issue, lines will not help you...your problem is not lines,the text you sent was way better than anything i can come up for you to send, but it does not matter, she can feel the underlying issue