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Do read Chase "Emotional Vampirism" article, too.
Anyway, an "idiot" has been on my mind lately. Having lack of sleep, having trouble getting things done, not to mention other problems, The last thing on my mind is an "idiot" who will be stuck in my mind because he is "right". Due to me, always being the faithful, lovely, nice, rightheousness fellow, in the past, it doesn't help me at all.
Anyway, this 3 steps helps me to remove this kind of judgemental people influencing my brain.
1) What Value Does He Offer My LIfe?
If he doesn't offer value, but he talks so much, Get the fuck out.
2) What Is His or Her Agenda?
Everyone has their own motives. I am not advising to always be on your toes, That itself is "Victim mentality". If you going to be dead, you going to be dead anyway. So just see what is he trying to do.
3) Actions Speaks Louder Than Words
Three things to note. See what he do, See what he do to other people, See if he's proud of what he does.
That's all folks. Don't worry about this kind of people, Because they don't really care about you.
If you think i am lying, by all means, Go out!, Crash and Burn. It's a good thing to learn. I hope i didn't sound sarcastic, but i happen to see how some of my past judgemental, rightheous guys do things to me, and other people.Anyway, Number 2 and Number 3 tend to correlate together, so with Question 2 and 3, you already know who the person is. I hope to get more research on morals and practical points to help guys see why they see things like this and that. I believe some guys still have this "right and wrong" mentality. I want to note on this, and hope i can list out few practical points i used on myself to help myself guide through life.
Zac
Anyway, an "idiot" has been on my mind lately. Having lack of sleep, having trouble getting things done, not to mention other problems, The last thing on my mind is an "idiot" who will be stuck in my mind because he is "right". Due to me, always being the faithful, lovely, nice, rightheousness fellow, in the past, it doesn't help me at all.
Anyway, this 3 steps helps me to remove this kind of judgemental people influencing my brain.
1) What Value Does He Offer My LIfe?
If he doesn't offer value, but he talks so much, Get the fuck out.
2) What Is His or Her Agenda?
Everyone has their own motives. I am not advising to always be on your toes, That itself is "Victim mentality". If you going to be dead, you going to be dead anyway. So just see what is he trying to do.
3) Actions Speaks Louder Than Words
Three things to note. See what he do, See what he do to other people, See if he's proud of what he does.
That's all folks. Don't worry about this kind of people, Because they don't really care about you.
If you think i am lying, by all means, Go out!, Crash and Burn. It's a good thing to learn. I hope i didn't sound sarcastic, but i happen to see how some of my past judgemental, rightheous guys do things to me, and other people.Anyway, Number 2 and Number 3 tend to correlate together, so with Question 2 and 3, you already know who the person is. I hope to get more research on morals and practical points to help guys see why they see things like this and that. I believe some guys still have this "right and wrong" mentality. I want to note on this, and hope i can list out few practical points i used on myself to help myself guide through life. Zac
