Hey guys. This won't be exactly a situation or something with a specific girl but rather a general issue that I have with myself. This site helped me a lot and I want to continue in my self-development.
I created the feeling of abundance in myself and I know how much value I provide to people in general, not just girls. I'm an ENTJ personality by Briggs Myers' evaluation so those of you who know my type, maybe you can bring a better advice for me. So, the problem I currently have is whenever I fail with a girl and she stays within my social circle (granted, I hang out with bunch of dudes and we rarely stay friends with girls we approach, but it happens on rare occasions), I get the feeling of paranoia or my ego shattering when/if someone else from my social group gets with her. Don't get me wrong, I handle rejection pretty easily, I know I won't see her again. But if she stays within the social group, I get the feeling that my job isn't done and that I should still be trying to get her. You could say that I hate to lose, especially if I know my worth. I read a lot about stoicism and I try to incorporate its teachings on a daily basis just so I could avoid these kinds of feelings, specially because I know how ridiculous this maybe is to some of you.
I know the major gist of it is to just try and get more girls in general, i.e. numbers, meet-ups and so on. But I'd still like to know if there's some psychological way to end this pathetic issue I'm having.
While I'm at it, I'm also having problems with performance anxiety whenever I meet a girl who's DTF. I'm the kind of person who likes to get to know the girl better and then I'm ace, but on the first night, strangers and and all that, uh-uh, it just won't go up. I think too much, I get nervous, you know what I'm talking about.
That's it, boys. Hit me up with some advice. Is there a way to counter those? What can I do to better myself in those areas? Much appreciated.
I created the feeling of abundance in myself and I know how much value I provide to people in general, not just girls. I'm an ENTJ personality by Briggs Myers' evaluation so those of you who know my type, maybe you can bring a better advice for me. So, the problem I currently have is whenever I fail with a girl and she stays within my social circle (granted, I hang out with bunch of dudes and we rarely stay friends with girls we approach, but it happens on rare occasions), I get the feeling of paranoia or my ego shattering when/if someone else from my social group gets with her. Don't get me wrong, I handle rejection pretty easily, I know I won't see her again. But if she stays within the social group, I get the feeling that my job isn't done and that I should still be trying to get her. You could say that I hate to lose, especially if I know my worth. I read a lot about stoicism and I try to incorporate its teachings on a daily basis just so I could avoid these kinds of feelings, specially because I know how ridiculous this maybe is to some of you.
I know the major gist of it is to just try and get more girls in general, i.e. numbers, meet-ups and so on. But I'd still like to know if there's some psychological way to end this pathetic issue I'm having.
While I'm at it, I'm also having problems with performance anxiety whenever I meet a girl who's DTF. I'm the kind of person who likes to get to know the girl better and then I'm ace, but on the first night, strangers and and all that, uh-uh, it just won't go up. I think too much, I get nervous, you know what I'm talking about.
That's it, boys. Hit me up with some advice. Is there a way to counter those? What can I do to better myself in those areas? Much appreciated.
