How to rid a lover that loves you?

[Mr.Rob]

Okay so my found lover that I talked about in my LR https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=4034
and I have slept together two nights in a row. Basically I think she might be getting a little attached (I gave her an orgasm the first night) and want to sleep with me every night/every other night. I'm personally done with her emotionally and find her a bit annoying and intellectually un-stimulation. I like the girl but for me to keep having sex with her would be pumping un-passionate weak sexual energy into her pussy which is unhealthy for both of us.

If she wants to continue having a casual fling and I don't want to, how do I let her down without hurting her and being a bitch and ignoring the subject?

 

[Franco]

Rob,

If she wants to continue having a casual fling and I don't want to, how do I let her down without hurting her and being a bitch and ignoring the subject?

Well, seeing her the next night was probably a mistake. In a girl's mind, there's an enormous difference between a one night stand and anything more than that that is still sexual. The second you decide to see her again on a different night is the second she stops seeing the interaction as a "one night fling" and more as a "potential relationship." So next time you bed a girl, make sure that you know what your intentions are before you make that decision to invite her over again. I would bet that you already knew after you bedded her the first time that this girl was probably not going to be your type, so make sure to take that into account next time.

Your best bet from here is just to suddenly become too busy to see her every time she texts you, wanting to see you. Just respond with things like, "I can't right now because I have some work to do." Never be detailed in your reasons and never add the words "I'd like to, but..." in front of your text. Eventually she will get the hint that you don't want to see her again, and if she really does like you, it's going to sting her a bit, but it's the best you can do at this point. Seeing her again is only going to make it worse when you finally do decide to break it off.

- Franco

 

[Mr.Rob]

Good advice Franco, I should have been more responsible and proactive with my actions. I will definitely keep this in mind for next time. Unfortunately we're both living at the same hostel and it's next to impossible not to bump into each other. But I think I'll be able to find a way make both parties happy.

Appreciate the advice a lot.

Rob