How to shake the "Single and Looking" label

[Verisimilitude]

Hey all, this might not be the traditional post on this board, but I think it relates to sexual relationships and can help people out. I have been single for a while and I'm completely fine with it and I'm having more fun than I was before in my relationship. The problem is, I still get slotted into the single and looking guy role. How do I shake this label? I think it would help me with relationships in my social circle and for new girls as well.

 

[Oskar]

With new people the frame of being "in between things" works well for me while in social circles it is advisable to be rather tight lipped about your relationships (in a "it's no big deal" sorta way) while keeping lots of girls around you in apparently ambiguous capacities. Treating girls as "silly and cute", being not needy, dominant (not a follower but a leader), etc. are important as well. You are always filling a role (actually multiple different ones) in someone's life and there is always going to be the social element and it is almost always best to choose the role(s) you serve instead of letting others tell you what they need from you. If you want to get out of being seen in one regard it is far easier to change that by becoming something else instead of trying to become "not that". This is basically a question about building intrinsic social status, which you can read about on the website here: https://www.girlschase.com/content/socia ... d-using-it.

Simply put, my answer to the social circle part of your question is that you need to take on another role that makes people who currently see you as the "single and looking guy" experience greater and greater levels of cognitive dissonance until they change their views of you. You can do this by actively (yet gently and implicitly) leading them towards a more preferable view of you that appears to be more beneficial to them than the present one and that will also over-ride the present one. For your situation in might be worth considering getting a girl to be your stand in social circle girlfriend but who is open to an inclusive relationship.

Hope that answers some of your question,
Oskar