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Hi everyone this is my first post on the board. I've been reading girls chase for a little over a year now and in my last, I don't want to call it a relationship and I'm not sure what to call it exactly, thing, this website was a huge help. This girl and I started talking about a year ago. I used lots of advice from this website to create a more confident charming me and I pretty much had this girl wrapped around my finger within a month. At first I really just saw her as another girl I could just mess around with. She was fun attractive down to earth and really just a great person and I eventually realized I had fallen hard for her. I could've had her and I knew it but I had some issues in my life at that moment. My grandfather had recently died, I had some other personal issues and insecurities, and I wanted to focus on fixing my problems before moving onto a relationship with her. I wanted to improve myself and be the best guy I could be before asking her out instead of being a depressed insecure wreck, which I'm sure would've been a major turnoff to her. So I took care of my issues but after a few months of us talking and me never actually starting a relationship with her (despite me telling her that I did have feelings for her) she assumed I was leading her on; however she never mentioned this to me. So for about another month things were normal I brought up possibly dating, saying we'd talked for awhile and I was wondering if our friendship was going to evolve to anything more. She said she didn't know and I was ready to move on when she started getting increasingly flirty again. Then she started leading me on. Over the next two months we acted as though we were pretty much dating. She said that I meant more than anything else in the world she needed me and she loved me. Now I was taken aback by this a bit. I was happy but I also felt like some of the things she said were strange like her saying love and claiming she really thought it was love. Yeah two weeks later and she was telling me she didn't have feelings for me never had and she absolutely crushed me. But at the same time she was saying I was her best friend she needed me and I didn't realize how much I meant to her. So I tried to be friends with her but I found it hard. I was angry and our friendship slowly deteriorated over the course of 2 months. During this time however I befriended one of her closest friends who told me how the girl thought I led her on, how she cried on valentines day, and how she couldn't seem to decide if she hated me or loved me. Anyway this girl and I haven't talked since late September. We've gotten together with mutual friends at certain points but we don't interact much. I've talked to other women and I'm my charming usual self with them. But I want to possibly rekindle something with this other girl but I don't know how to pursue even a friendship with her. I can't even start a conversation. For the first time in my life I'm at a loss for words. So after this very long story (I apologize for that) my question is very simple: how should I go about trying to talk to her again. Should I randomly just text her and be like "hey how have you been? It's been awhile lol" or what? Any help is appreciated and thanks in advance. If there are any typos or something doesn't make sense I'm typing this from my phone with autocorrect since my computer isn't working so sorry for that.
