How to stop an interview?

[superomar]

So,I read earlier off on here and from some conversation examples on Chases's blog, that in order to avoid making conversations feel like I'm interviewing the woman, I should pause and make a bored face or look away so that social tension builds and they ask me a question. Well as this works sometimes, what do I do if I'm just standing there looking at her and looking away, and she never says anything back? For example, yesterday I had a conversation that went like this:

I had asked her a couple questions already and was at this one question, until I felt like it started to become an interview,

Me: So then if you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you travel?

Her: Somewhere in Europe is where I would go

Me: where in Europe exactly?

Her: I'd go to either Germany or France

Me: Oh thats actually pretty cool

... stares at each other for a good 10 seconds

Me: Well I have some stuff to take care of, It was nice meeting you debby

Her: It was nice meeting you too! smile-

 

[Estate]

The pause is really only going to work when you have already engaged the girl and she is invested in you.
If she is not invested or attracted in any way yet, it's just awkward.

You avoid the interview but just not asking interview questions. Make statements about things, tell stories, just avoid the boring topics.
You've got to TALK to her.

I'm reading this like you've just approached a girl, asked a question, then appeared bored? That won't come off well...
The "bored" look is when you are WITH the woman, you're out with her on a date and she is digging you, stop investing in her and make her ask the questions. If you haven't reached that point with a girl, you can't act bored... she'll just wonder what the hell is up with you.

 

[PinotNoir]

"Why Europe? The culture, the food... the hot guys? "
"What's your passion for Europe?"

When a girl starts acting like this (short, cold answers), I've started using assumptions instead. It usually adds more emotion to the conversation.

"France... Ah, so you're a hopeless romantic that loves red wine, pizza, and Claude Debussy."
"Germany... So you love sausage (suggestive) and loads of beer."

This will spur some emotion in her and possibly some more conversation topics.

"No, I love white wine and hate classical music! I'm a rock n' roll chick."
"No, I'm a vegetarian and love wine!"

Then you just talk about one of these topics more in depth.

After you get her talking a bit, then you can talk about yourself a little bit (to make it less of an interview).

If she's still not engaging you... if it's on an approach, just tell her that you have to leave and ask for phone number anyway (what's it going to hurt)... if it's on a date, keep pursuing anyway and eventually kiss her and more. I've known girls just like this that ended up going back to bed with me. They're usually nervous. Chase enlightened me that this is actually a good thing; they're nervous about being impressive enough for you.

However, some girls may just not be interested enough. Persist anyway to find out. And if she's still dis-interested, just scratch her off and move to the next girl.

 

[superomar]

Ah both responses were great, the conversation leading up to that question was more like in a span of three minutes, walking from class to downstairs infront of the doors. I'll remember assumptions, and helping here think with choices, and relating with stories. I have to do a better job at connecting anyways, and my questions could be more interesting. Thank you guys