How to text a girl who flakes on a third date, where failed escalation on 2nd?

[perpetualsun]

Theres a girl I failed to escalate on the 2nd date. I got drunk and had a bad and clumsy escalation. I could tell her energy levels after the failed escalation were really down. Afterwards, she did agree to a 3rd date for drinks, but today she texted saying that she was still hungover from a concert last night. I know Chase usually says not to arrange another meeting on the spot. I know getting her out for another date is already a crapshoot, but how would you guys approach a girl who you failed to escalate on, then flaked on a 3rd date? Should I say, "no worries, etc etc", then wait a day before asking her again? Honestly feel like I should drop her, but want to see how this plays out for experience. Thanks!

 

[Ross]

Re: How to text a girl who flakes on a third date, where failed escalation on 2n

If you fail the escalation and then she flakes on the next meetup, it usually means things are over. But there's always the chance that she actually was hungover.

Thereofre, propose meeting up again, but do it in a way that's more of a parting shot:
You: "Hey, I know things didn't work out last night, but I'm willing to try and set another date up. When is the nearest time you're free?"

If she doesn't respond, no big deal, it's done with. If she does, with a, I'm busy:

You: "I understand that you're busy, I know I'm busy time to time. Just let me know when you're cool to meet up."

Because, if she is legitimately busy, she will hit you up. But if she's just fronting to avoid contact again, then she can just wait indefinitely on telling you when she can meet up.

 

[perpetualsun]

Re: How to text a girl who flakes on a third date, where failed escalation on 2n

Thanks for your response, what I did recently was just text, "No worries hope u feel better " and then four days later message her again for a meet. Due to the time difference of four days, would the parting shot message you described above convey any sort of insecurity on my behalf? Thanks!