How to text a younger girl who might be immature and playing games?

[beginner112]

Hi guys,

I recently met a younger girl who is 20 (I'm currently 23) over an online dating app. After talking with her on the app for a bit, I asked her when she could meet, and since she is under 21, I had to go for something other than a drink, so I chose to meet at an average and simple restaurant. Well, she ends up texting the day before that she broke her finger. I was going to call BS, but decided to give her the benefit of the doubt. She started rambling on about how she needed time to practice her eating skills, to which I just replied:

"Haha sure, why dont you let me know when ur done practicing"

Then, three days later she texts me again saying she is good with chopsticks now, and what how my weekend is looking.

I respond back: "Haha congrats, hows sunday for sushi work?"

To which she replies: "Hahaha, I just had so much sushi i cant even think about it right now"

Thinking this is a test, and not about to let her off the hook completely, I just respond: "haha fair enough, but I’m still looking forward to seeing your left handed chopstick skills so hows ramen sound instead. "

She then responds: "Omgg noodles :0"

At this point, I don't know what to respond anymore, my opinion is that she might have just wanted to reinitiate contact for a self-esteem boost/attention,

OR,

she could be very immature. Do you guys have any ideas how I can respond to this or if my assessment is correct?

As for what to do, should I just cut off contact until she reinitiates? Thanks!!

 

[ray_zorse]

NEXT!

IMO, vague responses or texts that are non-responsive to your last text are indicators she wants you in the orbiter slot.

Ray

 

[Kaelos]

I don't like restaurants for a first date. Women often prefer low-key & low-pressure meets, as do I. I prefer coffee/tea 90% of the time, but occasionally I'll meet for a drink at a very laid-back place (no upscale lounges, maybe a dive bar if she had mentioned she's into them).

I don't like all your "haha"s. I prefer a simple to indicate warmth (Franco uses this constantly in his texts. Check out this Franco post and his use of the "") Think of being in person with a girl, would you giggle every time she said something (indicated by the haha's) or would you smile warmly and/or seductively (indicated by the ""). It's not a huge deal, but sets a better tone for your texts. Depending on the girl, she may take your "haha"s as nervous laughter.

Most importantly though, if she told you she broke her finger, why would you keep pushing meeting for sushi (and then noodles)? I know she reached out saying she's better with chopsticks, but I still take that as an indirect objection to the restaurant plan. In sales, someone raises an objection or concern, you address it. As a leader you provide an alternative that appeals to both you and her. In this case, it would've been best to have said something like,

Oh sorry to hear about your finger No worries though, we can do coffee instead, when are you free this week

So, in your case, I would wait a few days, then text her:

How's your finger doing, <Her Name>?

She'll respond, "oh it feels great now!" or something like that. You then respond:

Glad to hear it's getting better I'm thinking it'd be fun for us to get together for coffee/tea, when are you free this week?

If she dodges a meetup at this point, then do Chase's put the ball in her court text message and move on.

Here's a Franco post on addressing concerns via text.