How to word “cutting contact” text so I seem strong and not butthurt

[Kaida]

There’s this one girl I’ve been spending too much time on. I set up a movie date for Saturday but she wasn’t very enthusiastic so I’m pretty sure she’s gonna flake. Even if she doesn’t, I dont know if I can make anything out of it.

(I might just flake myself and then cut contact LOL)


If she does flake, I plan to cut contact cuz it’s definitely been too long.


I read on this article that an effective way to do this is by telling her you wont be hanging around her, because you’ll be dating (people other than her!) pretty hard, implying you no longer see her as a fit romantic option.


But straight up saying “I wont be hanging around you anymore, Im gonna start dating a lot of other girls” like the article suggests sounds butthurt to me.


Do you guys have any possible reframes of that statement I can use that imply all the right things?

 

[topcat]

just ghost her

 

[Regal Tiger]

Pretty much what Topcat said, just flake on your meetup and then don't reach out to her anymore

If she reaches out to you down the road then that's a judgment call for you to make. You can take it as she's now more interested and try again or you can test her a bit or even walk away entirely