How true is? becoming desensitised from porn!

[Virgin101]

I guess by this I mean visual de-sensitization as opposed to physical. It's been six months since I've had sex, and I've noticed that for a few of the pics I used to masturbate to, aren't enough anymore. I've definitely heard my fair share of arguments for and against porn and it gets a bit confusing. I suppose one thing is that unlike smoking or drinking, there's never a proper reason (at any given point in time) to not fap, and that may be why it's for some to get it under control. I'll say another thing - this whole idea of feeling more confident if you don't fap, I simply don't buy... or at least it doesn't work for me.

Of course there's the argument that it's not possible to become desensitised to it, in the same way one can't become desensitised to music or food. And even if one does become desensitised, you could argue that one could always go a couple of weeks without masturbation or watching porn, and then you'd once again be very sensitive to anything remotely aestethically appealing. But I'm concerned that mightn't be true. Anyway at least there's the touch and warmth of physical contact that goes with sex - and that, one can't have become desensitised to it from watching porn.

Some people may even laugh at the idea of even fapping to images when porn is easily available. But pictures work quite well if you've a good imagination - and I figure you're not going to become mentally numb to sex by merely looking at a few pictures. It's all a first world problem I know, but share any thoughts you have.

 

[Inbocca]

The issue is in how it roots in you. Even in people who have sex regularly (they made a whole documentary about it, maybe more). When you begin associating porn with sex, it sates your desire for it. For people who aren't getting laid, it gives them an easy out not to put the work in to get laid. For people who are, it gives them an unrealistic ideal that real sex can't (usually) live up to.

It's like if you want to be a detective but rather than training to be a police officer and honing your observation skills, you go and watch crime shows all day. You're getting that hype that you'd like to get from being a detective, but you don't have to do any of the work; and the worst part is, what you're seeing isn't even real. All staged, with scripts and paid actors who've spent good parts of their lives synthesizing the emotions you're getting so into. Porn is the exact same way. Even "amateur" stuff.

The idea of desensitization isn't just about confidence or testosterone - though it does affect those things. It's about being content not to push yourself and filling that void in an easy way. If you're not having sex with attractive women, now you don't have to - they're right there! If you are having sex with attractive women but you don't get to do all the things you want, or you haven't had sex with a girl of this race, or you haven't had a crazy orgy and really want to, now you don't have to worry about it - it's all right there! But when you refuse to let yourself fall into that pit of complacency, there's only one way to satisfy that urge to get what you want - and that's to go out and do it.

 

[Virgin101]

Don't look at anything. Masturbate with your imagination, period. Porn or just pictures give your brain a false sense of you spreading your seed.

Just don't.

Slay

For all I know, that's sarcasm!

 

[Virgin101]

Thanks Inbocca

The issue is in how it roots in you. Even in people who have sex regularly (they made a whole documentary about it, maybe more). When you begin associating porn with sex, it sates your desire for it. For people who aren't getting laid, it gives them an easy out not to put the work in to get laid. For people who are, it gives them an unrealistic ideal that real sex can't (usually) live up to.

The idea of desensitization isn't just about confidence or testosterone - though it does affect those things. It's about being content not to push yourself and filling that void in an easy way. If you're not having sex with attractive women, now you don't have to - they're right there! If you are having sex with attractive women but you don't get to do all the things you want, or you haven't had sex with a girl of this race, or you haven't had a crazy orgy and really want to, now you don't have to worry about it - it's all right there! But when you refuse to let yourself fall into that pit of complacency, there's only one way to satisfy that urge to get what you want - and that's to go out and do it.

I was trying to point out that that's the usual stuff that's spouted. I'm not so sure I believe that because:

1. because I didn't start watching porn until I was 22, and I haven't been any less motivated to chat up girls since. Probably more motivated.
2. I'm not motivated to get sex by horniness, but instead to it to satisfy my ego.
3. It is impossible (for me) to see the direct link between chatting up girls, and sex. It's not like you get a boner from chatting up a girl! In the same way you start drooling at the site of food, the food you'll actually get in a few seconds. The girl, if you're lucky, might shag you in a couple of days/weeks - if that's even the right girl.

I watch porn about once a week. I only do so when I know I'll have no interruptions and it's nearly always perfect. I can be something to look forward to at the end of a stressful day, and you feel good afterwards. I figure, as long as everything else is kept in balance, a little reward couldn't be too bad.

As of now, I have no proper reason not to!