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This post pertains to when you’re pursuing a female textually. Either over a dating app, imessage, what’sapp, text messages...
Non sexual attention is one currency in which you can use to acquire her sexual attention. Prior to sex your sexual attention is not going to be very valuable unless she perceives your value to be high, relative to hers. Sexting can be an effective way to get her turned on and wanting to meet, but it’s very risky, even if you know what you’re doing.
If she is attracted to you, you’re non sexual attention can be either very valuable or less valuable than a handful of pesos.
How valuable your attention is comes down to supply and demand. If you are very free and willing to give away your attention it will lose its value. Unless your perceived value is very high she will not be motivated to trade her sexual attention for your non sexual attention, because she can get it for free.
The key to having valuable non sexual attention is that it must be scarce. In most cases women are not attracted to men who are overly available.
If your attention is scarce and hard to come by, and she is attracted to you, you can use your attention as leverage to acquire her sexual attention.
Building up then pulling back is the method I use when I sense that a girl is willing to fuck me for her attention. This works best with more attractive girls that are getting a lot of attention.
The process is as follows. You give her attention. When you are asking her to hang out you get the sense that she doesn’t want to stop talking to you (ie she wants your attention) but she doesn’t seem that interested in meeting. When I realize this I will temporarily give her more attention. I will FaceTime her and text her more to get to know her better, without trying to meet. At the point I can tell my attention is valuable enough to her that she doesn’t want to lose it, I will take it away. Then when she reaches back out I will tell her that I’m not much of a texter but I had wanted to meet her. So I put the ball on her court and give her the option of contacting me IF she wants to meet up. Within a couple days it’s likely she will want to meet. This should be done over text after you have got her off the app, if that’s how you acquired the lead.
This is what I’ve been doing during quarantine. It is hard right now to get girls to meet. It is also important to acknowledge her concerns right now. There are a lot of concerns girls can be having and they’re all very legitimate. We’re living in a strange time. If you’re not getting to the bottom of her objections and handling them in an empathetic way then pulling back attention isn’t going to work. This is just one part of the equation. Things are difficult for me right now. I’ve never taken such a deep look at the dynamics of text game as right now.
Timing is also one of the most important factors in getting girls to meet over apps/texting. There are two timing strategies. The one a lot of guys go for is trying to get dtf girls to come over the night you match. This is a viable strategy if the girl is very dtf. I have not been finding this to work during quarantine.The girls I’ve been meeting, whether from apps or I had their number or social media from the past, on average have been taking ten days. The second strategy regarding time, which I find effective currently, is taking things slow. A message or two a day is sufficient. Take longer than she takes. And let her send the last message if the day.
There’s never been a better time to tighten up text game. I wish I would’ve done this a long time ago. Since things are hard and I’m getting the impression from here that most guys are having trouble, I thought I’d share what’s working for me. I hope this helps someone.
Non sexual attention is one currency in which you can use to acquire her sexual attention. Prior to sex your sexual attention is not going to be very valuable unless she perceives your value to be high, relative to hers. Sexting can be an effective way to get her turned on and wanting to meet, but it’s very risky, even if you know what you’re doing.
If she is attracted to you, you’re non sexual attention can be either very valuable or less valuable than a handful of pesos.
How valuable your attention is comes down to supply and demand. If you are very free and willing to give away your attention it will lose its value. Unless your perceived value is very high she will not be motivated to trade her sexual attention for your non sexual attention, because she can get it for free.
The key to having valuable non sexual attention is that it must be scarce. In most cases women are not attracted to men who are overly available.
If your attention is scarce and hard to come by, and she is attracted to you, you can use your attention as leverage to acquire her sexual attention.
Building up then pulling back is the method I use when I sense that a girl is willing to fuck me for her attention. This works best with more attractive girls that are getting a lot of attention.
The process is as follows. You give her attention. When you are asking her to hang out you get the sense that she doesn’t want to stop talking to you (ie she wants your attention) but she doesn’t seem that interested in meeting. When I realize this I will temporarily give her more attention. I will FaceTime her and text her more to get to know her better, without trying to meet. At the point I can tell my attention is valuable enough to her that she doesn’t want to lose it, I will take it away. Then when she reaches back out I will tell her that I’m not much of a texter but I had wanted to meet her. So I put the ball on her court and give her the option of contacting me IF she wants to meet up. Within a couple days it’s likely she will want to meet. This should be done over text after you have got her off the app, if that’s how you acquired the lead.
This is what I’ve been doing during quarantine. It is hard right now to get girls to meet. It is also important to acknowledge her concerns right now. There are a lot of concerns girls can be having and they’re all very legitimate. We’re living in a strange time. If you’re not getting to the bottom of her objections and handling them in an empathetic way then pulling back attention isn’t going to work. This is just one part of the equation. Things are difficult for me right now. I’ve never taken such a deep look at the dynamics of text game as right now.
Timing is also one of the most important factors in getting girls to meet over apps/texting. There are two timing strategies. The one a lot of guys go for is trying to get dtf girls to come over the night you match. This is a viable strategy if the girl is very dtf. I have not been finding this to work during quarantine.The girls I’ve been meeting, whether from apps or I had their number or social media from the past, on average have been taking ten days. The second strategy regarding time, which I find effective currently, is taking things slow. A message or two a day is sufficient. Take longer than she takes. And let her send the last message if the day.
There’s never been a better time to tighten up text game. I wish I would’ve done this a long time ago. Since things are hard and I’m getting the impression from here that most guys are having trouble, I thought I’d share what’s working for me. I hope this helps someone.
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