This is an incident that happened to me some years ago, when seduction theory as such wasn't even on my radar, but it is an incident I've often remembered and wondered how a man skilled with women would have handled it.
I was in a works party at a night club and decided to stay on after my colleagues had left. The club was mainly populated by absolutely smoking, sexily dressed, ultra-confident black girls.
I was pretty drunk and may have done a fair amount of unfortunate creepy staring.
At one point I was standing around not doing much and one of these ultra-hot black girls suddenly summoned me over by raising her arm, palm facing away from me and calmly using her hand to slightly beckon me over (I should say at this point that I had not as it happens been particularly staring at this girl, I don't think I was even aware of her until she beckoned me over).
My reaction was not bad for an untrained young man. I think she was expecting me to dash over eagerly with an ingratiating smile on my face but instead I just walked over slowly and calmly with a slightly quizzical expression on my face. When I got there she leaned in and without emotion said "Would you stop staring at me please?"
At the time it would never have occurred to me to react in any way other than I did - I nodded calmly and walked away.
Now my questions are:
1) Do you think she did actually call me over to tell me to stop staring or could it have been a way to find out more about me? Or was she just trying to humiliate me?
2) How would you have handled it if she did actually want you to stop staring and would you still try and convert?
3) How would you have handled it if she was actually just opening you?
4) How would you have handled being summoned over like that initially?
Just to re-iterate I don't think I was staring at her particularly, although I was pretty drunk. Certainly I wasn't following her around or anything like that.
I was in a works party at a night club and decided to stay on after my colleagues had left. The club was mainly populated by absolutely smoking, sexily dressed, ultra-confident black girls.
I was pretty drunk and may have done a fair amount of unfortunate creepy staring.
At one point I was standing around not doing much and one of these ultra-hot black girls suddenly summoned me over by raising her arm, palm facing away from me and calmly using her hand to slightly beckon me over (I should say at this point that I had not as it happens been particularly staring at this girl, I don't think I was even aware of her until she beckoned me over).
My reaction was not bad for an untrained young man. I think she was expecting me to dash over eagerly with an ingratiating smile on my face but instead I just walked over slowly and calmly with a slightly quizzical expression on my face. When I got there she leaned in and without emotion said "Would you stop staring at me please?"
At the time it would never have occurred to me to react in any way other than I did - I nodded calmly and walked away.
Now my questions are:
1) Do you think she did actually call me over to tell me to stop staring or could it have been a way to find out more about me? Or was she just trying to humiliate me?
2) How would you have handled it if she did actually want you to stop staring and would you still try and convert?
3) How would you have handled it if she was actually just opening you?
4) How would you have handled being summoned over like that initially?
Just to re-iterate I don't think I was staring at her particularly, although I was pretty drunk. Certainly I wasn't following her around or anything like that.
