HS Dropout In Need of Guidance

[Childish]

Hi all,

I guess I should start with a little bit of background. I am 17 years old, and very recently decided to drop out of high school. My rationale for dropping out was that I felt that high school was holding me back from learning, and preventing me from pursuing my passions. However, as much as I would love to attribute my decision to logic and rational thinking, the prime motivator for dropping out was that I felt that school was deteriorating my mental state. I have seen plenty of therapists and counselors and such, and most of them diagnosed it as some sort of depression and anxiety. But in my opinion, a lot of how I feel could be caused by lacking purpose and not knowing how to pursue a passion.

For most of my life I have found people very interesting, and wanted to learn about them and how to connect with them, but didn't know how. I found this website about a year ago and was hooked, but didn't (and still don't) know how to work it into high school because most of it was geared towards an older audience. My mental state definitely hasn't improved since I dropped out, and I know that I need to connect with people and maintain a strong social network in order to be happy with my life, but I don't really know how to do this.

I guess what I am hoping to gain from posting this is help from people who have similar passions. Unfortunately, I don't really know how to enjoy my life right now, and I've read articles and posts where Chase and others have touched on this, so I was hoping for some sort of guidance from you all. I know I don't have much to offer to anyone who gives me help, but I figured it couldn't hurt to ask.

Thanks for reading,
Childish

 

[Ross]

Do something man. Anything. I can tell you that the worst times of my mental state were when I sat around, disconnecting from the world and just thinking about things.

If you need a purpose, I can give you one, but you're probably going to have to develop it of your own. I would start very broad, contribute to the broad purpose, then narrow it down as you have more experience with such a purpose.

- Do you want to make someone's day better? Just get out of the house and smile at everybody you see.
- Do you want to contribute to society? Get a job. Fast food workers are needed just as much as doctors. You may not be suited to being a doctor, but you could be a chef. Maybe you could work towards being a renowned chef. Pick something you're good at, recognize how it can bring value to both other people are yourself, and run with it.
- As you said, you want to connect with people. Specify. First you need to know what they want to talk about. Ask them; what do you want to talk about, what are your passions? Inquire about their passions, learn about their passions, and connect on the basis that you validate their passions as being just and noble.

Too often we are caught up in thinking that what we choose to do on a daily basis must be ideal. That we can think our way into fitting into some type of system just right, like we were destined to be there. But oftentimes we must choose a discipline that is needed by others, because that in itself is a purpose that keeps on giving. Other people rely on you, and they create that purpose every day.

The first step is a small change. Get invested in some type of project that has other people as a motivation. Make it something that's easy to enter, and keeps you interacting with the world. What comes to mind for me is joining a community project or a job. Do these so that they keep you accountable, and work on connecting with the people around you once you've established meeting people as a part of your daily routine.

 

[Light]

I'm glad I stumbled upon this post, as I totally understand your pain. Because I have also been there.
My partner and I have recently started an online community to tackle these specific problems which we call "Limiting Beliefs".

You're welcome to join. Check it out here:
http://limitbreaklifestyleacademy.com/

 

[Childish]

Thanks Ross and Light,

I appreciate the help. It has been better lately and I have some things that I've been trying to work on.

The first step is a small change. Get invested in some type of project that has other people as a motivation. Make it something that's easy to enter, and keeps you interacting with the world.

I think that is something that I want to try to do. I find most of the things on this site interesting, and something like the newbie assignment might do the trick. Unfortunately, I think that the newbie assignment is geared towards adults. While I don't mind trying to go for college aged girls, I don't know how well that would work, especially with me not being in high school (GEDs tend to have a bit of a stigma). Any thoughts on how I should approach this (age group, location etc.)?

I think I might start a journal so that I would be held accountable also. Thoughts from anyone would be great.

Childish

 

[PrettyDecent]

Childish,

Give a gander through the Journal section and check out Casanova Jr.'s journal. He's made quite a leap of progress since joining the forums, and he's HS age.

There are also a few other members around that are under 18 - Jake and AsianPersuasion are two fellas that spring to mind.

They usually go to Malls and fairs/local festivals in addition to the girls they meet on the street. Luckily age, really, doesn't matter much in the scheme of seduction.

As far as your dropout status from HS - that could be a great advantage to take you out of boyfriend candidacy and into short-term lover. But perhaps wait to use that one later down the road when you have a lot of sex appeal to balance that out.

~Nick

 

[Childish]

Childish,

Give a gander through the Journal section and check out Casanova Jr.'s journal. He's made quite a leap of progress since joining the forums, and he's HS age.

There are also a few other members around that are under 18 - Jake and AsianPersuasion are two fellas that spring to mind.

They usually go to Malls and fairs/local festivals in addition to the girls they meet on the street. Luckily age, really, doesn't matter much in the scheme of seduction.

As far as your dropout status from HS - that could be a great advantage to take you out of boyfriend candidacy and into short-term lover. But perhaps wait to use that one later down the road when you have a lot of sex appeal to balance that out.

~Nick

Thanks a ton man, Its good to know that there are people on here of closer age. Any thoughts on how to handle the whole "not in high school" thing when girls ask where I'm from and go to school?

Childish